inferiority complex - can it be combatted or is it something a guy has to live with?

Answer 1

are you inferior? do something. learn a skill or hobby and be real good at it. then you can have atleast one thing your the bomb at.

Answer 2

No one has to live with an inferiority complex. You can "re-program" how you feel about yourself. I know because I have been doing it for quite a few years now. Things are so much better now and have been for quite awhile. Having confidence in yourself makes a huge difference!

Get a journal book and write affirmative ideas about (in the second and third person) and to yourself. Every chance you get, stop and think of something positive to say to yourself. Examples: "I know that I am worth being loved and respected by myself and others." "I know that I have a place in the universe and I have the wisdom to know that I belong here and have something to offer in this world." You can make up any number of statements to and about yourself.

Any negative thought that enters your mind, stop and reword it to make it into a positive statement. Example: "I here and now eliminate any thought or thoughts of___________."

Try to get creative and work up new thoughts a phrases to displace the negative ones. Try to eliminate the word no from your vocabulary except when needing to take care of your self, as in not letting yourself be taken advantage of, all the while tempering it with respect to the other person.

It does not happen over night. Old habits and habitual negative thinking die hard when you are so use to being negative. But I promise you it will get better and better as time goes by.

You may even have negative reactions to your new phraseology. You can back off a little and then "work" at it some more. You may email me if you wish to talk about it or share your experience with it. [e-mail] Good luck.

Answer 3

Everyone has given some great food for thought.

My 2 cents:

Nobody, but nobody, even the most apparently charismatic, outgoing, confident individual, is totally 100% OK with themselves; there are always nagging doubts, dark areas, etc. it's just part of being human. It is what keep our arrogance in check. Some people call it a 'conscience,' some a 'spirit,' some 'God.'

Seems like you are maybe too preoccupied with dwelling on, reflecting on, and perhaps even misproportioning your own self-doubt.

Nothing changes your attitude like real-world experience. The more things you actually do, that you never thought you could, will kill off this sense of self-doubt.

The military? Not for everyone (BTW military dude, 'take on the world with little more than a hard dick and a can opener??? LOLX2, ha-ha-ha...), but that's essentially the attitude you need. it's not what you have, it's what you think you have. The military will place you in situations where you simple HAVE to come through because others depend on you, and yes, you WILL find out what you are made of. For sure.

I'm not so keen on the idea of following the actions of others, because 'being your own man' is at the core of building a self-confident image. People don't like you? You aren't 'like the others?' Piss on them. You like you. Warts and all.

We all struggle with feelings of inferiority. So try new things, challenge yourself, and for God's sake, do not internalize the messages of others if they happen to not like what they see in you.

Good luck!

Answer 4

You have a lack of self confidence. If you're young enough, and you don't have a job? Go in the military- by the time you get out of basic training you really believe you can take on the world with nothing but a hard penis and a can opener,,,and you CAN!

If not, go learn how to skydive, or learn how to SCUBA dive. You need to challenge yourself!!

Also you need to learn how to work with a TEAM- so get on a football team, a softball team, or even a bowling team or a rugby team,,,,,anything to learn how to work with other men.

Now, you'd better be taking notes on this, Son- don't "be yourself" but watch how the other guys interact. Learn from "The leader" and watch how he acts, what he does, and how he does it. Learn from this "Alpha Male".

Answer 5

you can beat it by figuring what you want and making effort to get it.
The guy who says join the military? NO! It worked for him and he didn't get blown up in Iraq. 3,000 others weren't so lucky. Joinn the army when the country has a good reason to fight. not becuz some coke addict wants to be preznut.

Answer 6

sure it can be "combatted"...in general, maybe you are suffering from low self esteem...have you talked to anyone about how you are feeling?
you weren't specific in your question...are you referring to a specific relationship you have, your job, a woman, or in general?
if you aren't comfortable talking to someone, there are books available for you at your local large book store or online