I feel really really lonely and depressed because I have no friends. I've been wondering if I just have too high standards and that's why no one is close to me. To clarify on the no friends thing -- I have people who if I called them up would hang out with me, but no one that calls me (except one guy that likes me and I'm not interested in). I'm not desperate to have someone to do things with -- I am okay doing things by myself, but there is no one who I talk to every day or every other day, no one I see regularly. I don't have a boyfriend. I do date a few times a month. I'm in an activity club and I go out once or twice a week, so it's not like I'm totally isolated, but I am really uncomfortable around new people and I REALLY REALLY don't want to date anyone seriously. My question is: is it normal to go days without talking to anyone but coworkers and roommate? Is there such a thing as a close friend who will stick by you both when you're happy and when you're sad. ?
2006-11-03 11:51:10 · 12 answers · asked by Michelle J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A close Friend is a treasure and a very rare find. You are perfectly normal and I understand you very well. I have just one best friend and like it that way. To find one you don't search for him/her. It will happen slowly and unexpected at the same time. Don't worry and don't isolate yourself from other people. Get the most fun of life as you can and people will be drawn to you! This motto I would strongly recommend
2006-11-03 11:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual to go days at a time without seeing anyone other than co-workers or a roommate. It happens a lot more than people let on. And yes, there is such a thing as having the kind of friend who will be there for you no matter what. I have one right now, and we've been the best of friends for several years now, and have been there for the good stuff and for the tough times as well! She is the sweetest, kindest and most compassionate woman I've ever known, and if she needs me to be there, I'll drop what I'm doing and go, no questions asked! She would and has done the same for me! So hang in there, and keep your standards high, you deserve only the best! Good luck hon, and God Bless!
2006-11-03 11:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all who can say what is normal, sound like you need to stop being so hard on yourself. Open your eyes people are everywhere look out side yourself, smile and decide to be a happy person. You will find people will gravitate to you, everyone want to be around happy people. We have the choice ever minute or the day to be happy or not happiness is a choice its not a destination.
Yes there such a thing as close friends but you must be a friend to have a friend.
2006-11-03 12:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really analyze what you just said, you are the most normal person I have ever listened to. The one predominant trait that keeps coming up again and again from you is honesty.
Perhaps I can help you with this.
You will never find the truth, honesty, and happiness out there. All those things will be found within yourself, or they will never exist.
The answer to your question is yes, that close friend you speak of is with you now. . . . . . . . .It is yourself. Before you can like others, you must like yourself, to find happiness thru others, look to the happiness that is inside you now.
If it is not within you, it will never exist.
This is called enlightenment,
Darryl S.
2006-11-03 12:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Stingray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I MYSELF WONDER SOMETIMES,THE ONLY PERSON I REALLY HAVE TO TALK TO IS MY SISTER.SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST MORE SOCIABLE THAN OTHERS,IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU HAVE A PRETTY FULL LIFE.MYSELF I WOULD RATHER BE A LONER.AND NO,I DON'T THINK THERE IS SUCH A THING AS A CLOSE FRIEND THAT WILL BE THERE,I FIND PEOPLE TO BE VERY SELF ABSORBED.THATS JUST MY OPINION THOUGH,THE GIRL WITH A SISTER FOR A FRIEND.
2006-11-03 12:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes about the close friend part. You just might be a little introverted.
I think you're normal, but if you're not ... who cares.
Normal is boring. If u don't feel like talking don't, but remember to be there for other people, smile and say hello, otherwise they might think you're stuck up..
2006-11-03 11:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Luken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those friends do exist but you have to make that bond with someone first. but if you feel fine without that then that is great.
but since you are asking it sounds to me that you dont feel fine with it. other than childhood friends most people meet their best friends at the work place so be on the lookout.
2006-11-03 11:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by jason c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow were the same i lived herein honolulu for 3 years and i have no friends i feel so alone i would love to have someone to talk to hang out with my names lani iam 20 years old im me back if you like take
2006-11-03 12:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by donna s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be suffering from depression. You need to talk to someone. Professional help could be good but beware of the instant fix of medication they always seem to push.
2006-11-03 11:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by QuickQuestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has to have at least a couple of friends. Try to find people that have your interests. I hope you get a decent answer! bye
2006-11-03 11:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ღ...∂αηg3яσυѕℓу ιη ℓσν3...ღ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋