What happens if you get, a divorce, are a stay at home mom, have not been working, have no money, and share
one car, with husband before divorce. The car is not payed for and is in my husbands name. Does he legally have to provide transportation? What are the legalities? Also I'm 5 months pregnant and don't know if I can get hired anywhere! We just decided today to get seperated today.
2006-11-03 11:49:32 · 14 answers · asked by sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stay together for the kids, you don't need this kinda stress at this point in your life(preg) it could have detrimiental effects on the baby. There should be a waiting period for seperations like there is for buying handguns...you need a cooling off period
2006-11-03 12:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
O.K., first thing...have a good cry, scream, throw something then get a good nights rest....Even if you have to take some Tylenol PM (max 2). Take you kids to your parents house, go home and start calling lawyers on Monday. You'll have all weekend to stew, and that really sucks, but don't let him get you down. It sounds to me like this is his idea...I don't think any woman in your situation, in her right mind, would seek a divorce unless he is abusing her or the kids.
Call a lawyer on Monday, call social services, call your preacher (if you belong to a church) and ask for help. Once you are doing something to take care of the situation, you will likely feel much better.
Three things I have learned to live by after 2 divorces, (your story is not unique, nor is you situation)
1. There is ALWAYS a silver lining....sometimes you have to look REAL hard to find it, but the search is a healthy one.
2. No matter how bad things look from your seat in the theater of life, someone else has a worse seat. Enjoy where you are or MOVE! It's your life.
3. What does not kill you only makes you stronger!
Good luck!
2006-11-03 20:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are five months pregnant I dont think its been long that you have been discussing separation unless you were still having sex with bad feelings toward each other so I really think you should try very hard to make things work. Remember why you married him and think about living the rest of your life with out him. And you might want to consider your children too. But I guess that was not part of the question so if you do separate surely given the circumstance he will help you out and take care of you and his children until you have the baby and can get a job yourself. If not there are plenty of public defenders you do not have to pay for that can help you. But I would not worry if I were you because even in the worse case scenario you will be taken care of by his paycheck. I just hope he will take responsibility instead of causing you grief in and out of court for what is the inevitable. good luck!
2006-11-03 20:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just decide to not get separated! Sky, I understand how difficult this time is for you. My guess is, finances probably had a lot to do with this separation. The problem is now things get measurably harder! You have a child on the way. You need your husband. You may not want him, but you need him! You need to get employment first before you take the step to be on your own, if you both share a car, and have no savings. I wish I could give you better advice that would promise the lifestyle you want to have as opposed to the one you do have. It's just not possible. If he makes too little, well, you can't squeeze blood from a turnip. Stupid saying but a little appropriate. If he didn't make enough before what's changing?
2006-11-03 20:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer!
You might be able to get the car,alimony and child support after the baby is born.
Get a lawyer asap!
One that will work for you.
Different states different laws.
Stay strong.
Best wishes
2006-11-03 19:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is out of the house you need to get some help started. Then get your divorce and stick it to him with child support and alimony. I would even ask the judge to make him pay the welfare department back the money that they give you.
2006-11-03 19:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by mandy3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to begin to stand on your own two feet. All you can do is to try to get a job. You can start wtih a staffing agency. just a suggestion. The next time you are married, you need to make sure that you have your own money and your own job and your own bank acct and your own car all in your name to keep this from happening again. please take care of yourself.
2006-11-03 20:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real man would offer to help you at this time. But real men are few and far between. Good luck
2006-11-03 20:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by tammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for you it sounds like a bad situation,,,he should help you tho,,,it might even be best for the kids intrests if yall just try to stick it out,,,that sucks but sometimes thats life.right?good luck,i hope you the best,msg me if you need someone to talk to
2006-11-03 19:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-03 19:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋