If you were me, How would you respond to my Girlfriend's e-mail? Please help - thankyou!!?

Question

Sexy Bill,

What a wonderful Wednesday it was, I just wanted to write you and thank you again since I was unable to write much yesterday morning due to the workload at hand. It was positively wondrous to be close to you, and to make love, which is out of this world.

I have to tell you, I am so impressed with your spirit in willingness to honor my request for more space that I feel closer to you than ever. You displayed an unprecedented level of understanding and wisdom, I am beside myself with admiration and respect for you. You never fail to show me the light when I have doubts. I only hope that I treat you as well as you deserve to be treated, because you are worthy of only the best and nothing less.

Looking at the whole, the only thing that I've had trouble with is how much you give, which is almost to an extreme, since you have such a generous heart. I can't help but to feel bad because I'm not in a position to give as much in return. At the same time I understand that is how you demonstrate your feelings, and I respect that.

I want to apologize that, I realize I've pretty much made it all about sex. That is shallow of me. I suppose I tried to justify it in my own mind by thinking that, as a man, maybe that is all you would care about too. But I am really a jerk for thinking alongs those lines-- you are a human being with feelings, not just a hot body and handsome face.

The more I find you reaching out to me with personal things such as sharing pictures with me, and showing/giving me things from your childhood, sends a message. Today I was puzzling over this outpouring, not knowing really what to do. My initial reaction unfortunately is to try to avoid getting too personal. But I started to think about how what a person shares is also what a person needs-- and maybe that I was treating you like an object. Like a sweet-hearted protest, you are showing me that you are more than just a toy. Like that toy doll in my dream that suddenly spoke, I've suddenly come to realize what's going on. I can see that you really want and need a special connection, and it's sad that I tend to do the exact opposite and vigilantly avoid everything that is romantic, sentimental, and personal. I don't know how to change this, but I think by ignoring your attempts to make a connection I am only making matters worse.

At least by acknowledging your needs I hope that you can see the level that I care about you. I am making my own attempt to figure out how to treat you right. I just wanted you to know that.

Have a joyful and happy Friday, looking forward to talking to you sometime this weekend.

Hayley

Answer 1

Why do you ask the same question over and over and over???
the e-mail sounds fake..

Answer 2

THe only was to react to a situation like this is to stop acting like an average frustrated chump. Do you have any game? You should know that you can't show the emotions you showed to her without freaking her out! Do you like her? Obviously. Do you want her to like you in return? Then withdraw from her now! Treat her like an object for a little while just like she is treating you. This is going to make her wonder what has happened to you. She is going to question why you are withdrawing and it is going to make her want the old you. You need to talk about to her superficially and make yourself conviently unavailable. Have you ever wanted something that you can't have? That is the emotion you need to pull out of her. If you play your cards right you can have her wrapped around you finger in a matter of a week or two.

Or you can go on and do what your doing and call her and pour your heart out to her and get an email like this one only worse. The next one will tell you that she won't be able to give you what you want and she doesn't want to hurt you so "let's just be friends." Good luck man.

Answer 3

The girl is full of contradictions. You have a tension headache, right? She sounds a wee immature. She's wordy but birdy. Funny ferdy birdy. Perhaps you should give her even more space. And fill some of that space with someone who better suits you. But maybe this one will work out. Who knows?

Answer 4

It sounds to me like a very personal message and I, for one, would sincerely hope that she doesn't find out that you would post something like this up for absoulute strangers to read.

Reply to this how your heart tells you to, not based on advice from others because that's not really you replying now is it?

Answer 5

This girl justs wants to have fun. If that is enough for you, then you can let her know that. And don't get serious. Enjoy your tmble and let it go. If you want more, you need to let her know that. But there is no reason why you have to do it by e-mail. I know why she decided to do it. She thought it would be easier. But you don't have to do that if you don't want to .... This is almost a Dear JOhn, and you have to decide if you want to send back a Dear Jane.

Answer 6

dam did it take her 2 days to write that email? well just tell her how u feel about ur sex life and well i dont want to kno how thats going but just tell her how u feel about her and stuff.

Answer 7

my ex girlfriend sounds like that but she would NEVER write me something like that because shes more of a jerk than that girl..

Answer 8

your a boy toy face it

Answer 9

seems a bit wordy. could have just been like :

"Sorry I only cared about having sex with you, I'll try a bit harder to make a relationship. -Thanks, Hayley"

I would respond with

" Sounds cool -Thanks Bill"

Answer 10

Well, it's either wishful thinking or, if it's true, then you can do better.