when my husband has to work late i'm the one who has to pick the kids up from school or take care of them when their sick not the ex because its "not her day to have them".i'm the one who takes them to get father day or b-day gifts plans the kids b-day party gets the x-mas tree so santa can come.but when it comes to mother's day weddings...we stepmoms get forgoten.my husband is a excellent dad never missed a child care payment has joint custody allways gets his kids on time never misses a visit with them and takes them extra time whenever he can.the only time the mom wants them is when my husbands family is having an outing( ex cousins b-day) and she wants to go to just bad mouth us then she will say "its my weekend to have him so i'm going to take him"any other time she is more than willing to give us extra time so she can go out.i know there are a lot of dead beat dads and evil stepmoms but why should the rest of us suffer for a few bad apples?
2006-11-03 11:17:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husbands ex wife is the same way. she wants to be at ALL of his family gatherings but she's so stupid because no one liked her before and they dont like her now she just looks pitiful. anyway she only has one child with him which she held over everyones head like bait or something and now i have two so she only looks dumb because no one wants to see her they only want to see his son.
2006-11-03 11:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by gyrl6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am kind of the devil's advocate because I am the Mom of an 8 yr old with a Step Mom who (yes I admit) is EVIL! However, I never use my son to thwart family plans! It is unfortunate that the birth mother sabotages parties with visitation rights. Compromise, flexibility, NICENESS...someday she will want the kids and will hopefully see the error of her ways when you graciously make changes for her. Remember, that you married that man and his kids and all that comes with it. What you do is for the kids. Just be the better person, take the high road and know that children ALWAYS know the real truth eventually. They will remember you as being there for them. I think it is wonderful that you make sure they get presents for their father. I am still in charge of that but think it is step mom's job now. And I always ask if my son got a Mother's Day gift for step mom! And I can't stand her, she is the devil incarnate! Hang in there, you sound like a great person
2006-11-03 19:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by mariasonawire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The stepmom is only viewed as the evil one if she is being the evil one in my opinion. I know way more truly evil exwives and innocent victim stepmoms, personally.
2006-11-03 19:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never had an evil step mom. nor have i ever met one. my step dad was wonderful replacement for my real dad. so i don't know what circles you run in. but that really sucks.
2006-11-03 19:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋