am i wrong for being upset about this?

Question

my husband is away at boot camp.and ever since his family is been talking junk to him about me. his aunt took our children and then when i went to pick them up i found out she took off and left them with a 12 year old kid.his mom was there with them,when i got back.but what i was upset about was his aunt taking off and leaving the kids with a 12 years old girl. no his mom.and i was specific what i was upset about.and they told him that i didnt want the kids with their grandmother.and that i had a fit about her watching the kids.and i was so upset that i wrote him a letter and told him to get the story straight and if he was going to believe everything they told him to just leave me alone because im done living like this.his mom and aunt always been like that about me.they even had him call a spiquic to see if i was cheating.and ive been nothing but faithfull since hes been gone.they dont do anything to help out.i work my a s s out everyday to make sure my kids have everything they need

im just tired of this of him believing everything they say.and talking to me like if im the one whose wrong.i feel bad for telling him to leave me alone if hes gonna keep believing everything he is told.instead of getting the story straight.but i cant deal with this anymore.im done.i love him so much but i feel that he is against me everytime his mom open her mouth.i do everything for my kids.no them.i pay rent,bills,everything.they dont even pick up the hone to check on the kids

Answer 1

You two need some time on your own. You need to sit down and talk about this. He is married to you, and you should be his priority. If he doesn't believe you he shouldn't have married you.

Make sure he realises that you have reached your limit. Talk to him calmly and rationally, but make him understand that if this goes on you will have to look at your options.

You are being undermined. This is your family, your children, and the relatives have no rights over you at all.

Best of luck, anyway, and I hope things all turn out for the best.

Answer 2

first how old are the two of you? this sounds like two younger people with young children in a young marriage and if the trust doesnt improve the marriage will never get to grow old. If his familiy is that bad.. you should try your best to only b involved with them concerning the children, dont discuss personal info with them that they can twist and use against you. Dont hang around them and open yourself to their criticisim. I have been through boot camp and it is a very stressful time. so dont take everything so personal from your husband. Explain to him what is really going on and how it makes you feel... he needs to give you the benefit of the doubt or you will have a very rocky marriage. If he is not willing to work on it.. evaluate what is important to you.. after you all, you dont have to live with them... you have to live with him!!

Answer 3

Your husband has spent 20 years listening to his parents. 20 years knowing that they were the ones who would be truthful and steer him in the correct path. Now he's married to you. He wants to give you the same respect, however, there is now conflict between those he has trusted, and a girl he has promised to trust. This is a learning experience! He's a slow learner. You two have many wonderful years ahead of you. He's been your knight in shining armor up until his parents butt in. Then the armor gets a bit tarnished. I can't ask you to be patient. In fact to make this learning experience work you are going to have to do what you have already done, write your husband a nasty gram. You should be proud of yourself! Your doing the right things this early in your relationship. Good Luck.

Answer 4

You're right to be upset. Your husband should take your side before believing his mom and aunt. And he needs to tell them to butt out of your life and to start treating you with respect or else HE is going to drop them out of his life. Makes it harder that he's not physically in the picture, but maybe start distancing yourself from those women and try to ignore them.

Answer 5

Just because they are family (weather by dna or marriage) doesn't mean that they are friends. Just because they are family doesn' t mean that they are trust worthy. Let your actions speak for themselves. Eventually they (your family) will end up digging themselves into a hole that they cannot get out of. Don't trust your *family* anymore. They are either jealous of you or just don't like you because of the notion that they think that you took their family member away from them when you two got married.

Answer 6

no you're not wrong for being upset, but next time it happens confront the aunt and mother-in-law and tell them to quit changing the story around so that it fits them and makes you look bad.

Answer 7

you know the good book says a man should leave his family and cling to his wife,,,but i also have to say,,yall shouldnt be worrieing him while hes at boot camp,,yall are grown and he has enough on his mind with out soap opera type stuff coming at him,,,,i understand and feel for you,,,no one likes theyre inlaws,,,lol,,i hate mine,,,,and they prolly feel the same about me,,,just try to overlook them cause it sounds like theyre kinda ignorant,,,and for someone whose sooooo faithful as you are thats a kinda provocative nickname you have,,,no hard feelings intended,,,msg me if you need someone to talk to,,,im a good listner

Answer 8

You are not wrong.

His family is a meddling pain in the butt.
He's an idiot for listening to them.

Answer 9

don't leave the kids with his family. ever again. and stay away from that family.

Answer 10

you are not wrong for being upset over this. they are rude to be upsetting your husband while he should be consintrating on other things right now!