I have this friends who is really clingy and everywhere I go he gose too, as well when ever in class we do partner work he always wants to be my partner and he never even asks me if I want to be his partner he just assumes. Today In class we were picking partners and I already had one, but my clingy friend comes over and expects us to be partners,and there was a fourth guy who didn't have a partner as well. Instead of my clingy friend being the one guys partner who doesn't have one he goes for me even though I already have a partner and in a result I lost my partner and had to work with my clingy friend because he wouldn't work with someone else. How can I tell my friend I don't want to be partners with him all the time without hurting his feelings?
2006-11-03 10:39:11 · 4 answers · asked by nathan920ca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just tell him u need some space and that you'd like to get a chance to do some stuff without him
if he really is your friend, he will understand
2006-11-03 10:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by jumanjifaceee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell him. You can do it in a gentle, non threatening manner. Tell him you do not wish to hurt his feelings. Keep in mind you have no control over how this person reacts to what you say, but you do have total control in how you react, which gives you power. If he has a problem with it, it is his problem at that point, and not yours. And really, if he does walk away angry, it's his issue to deal with.Do you really want to be friends with someone who is not responsive to something you feel is important and needs changing?
2006-11-03 18:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by knitting_fiend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe you should kindly say, "im sorry, but i already have a partner. maybe we can work together next time." if he gets mad, let him get over it. he's going to have to grow up sometime and realize there are more people in the world than just you. =] good luck.
2006-11-03 18:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you don't want to hurt his feelings but you need a chance to socialize with other people because in reality it is unhealthy to stay with just that one friend all the time.you need a chance to make new friends and get to know other people.
2006-11-03 19:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋