Skydiving is really not that dangerous if you are current (up to date), use good gear and common sense. You are more likely to die playing golf. Well, I've told her all this, but the fear is there. Should I give up a sport that I truly love or stop for her peace of mind? I don't want to end up resenting her for pushing me to make this decision. Has anyone else stopped doing something they loved for the person they love? How did it turn out?
2006-11-03 10:36:41 · 18 answers · asked by xorosho 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a true believer that if it is your time to go, your going, no matter what you happen to be doing at the time. I see her side a little in knowing if you are skydiving & something goes wrong..theres only one way you'll go, but there is danger in almost everything you do, golfing, riding horses, 4 wheelers, driving a car to work, flying, people get shot being in the wrong place, I believe in living life to the fullest & would be hard pressed to give up the things I like to do, but this is your life & your wife & neither of you need to resent each other, so maybe talk to her, heart to heart and you can reach a decision that both of you can live with.
2006-11-03 11:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by lesa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to fly my hang glider. My wife took up hang gliding with me at the same time. So, she can't really complain about my doing it since she's doing it too. We're now both intermediate pilots and love it! If I were you, I wouldn't stop skydiving -- you'll just build up resentment. There are just times when you have to get some air.
2006-11-03 10:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she would feel better if you got a decent sized life insurance policy. She might not admit it but a lot of her fears are of what she is going to do if she loses you. Can she pay the bills? Will she have to sell the house? That kind of stuff. Or you can get her to start skydiving herself.
2006-11-03 10:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Matt P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you stop because of her fear then you could end up being resentful. If your 'dare devil-ness (not that there's anything wrong with it)' scares her so much that she doesn't want you to do it...then maybe she needs to re-evaluate her part in this relationship with you. she is using her fear as control. If you stop sky diving because of her fear then you are allowing her to use her fear as control. if she doesnt' like it...she doesn't have to look at it. people that live on the edge add excitement to this world. i say keep it up. im not trying to sound mean...but if she doesn't like it...she doesn't have to look at it. you life is your life. each man and woman should live their own lives according how they want to live (regardless if they are married or not or have a partner or not) not by other people's fears and opinions.
2006-11-03 12:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turned out fine. I gave up something big I loved because my husband honestly worried for me. He is more important then a hobby. I have no regrets and seeing him stressed out for fear of me getting hurt was not worth it. Works both ways, he has also compromised many things for me and we hold no grudges or resentment.
2006-11-03 10:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please remember that marriage is a partnership... a commitment that you entered with another person - someone you chose to be your other half, which means life isn't just about you anymore. She is probably genuinely concerned for your safety becaues she loves you so much. Maybe try taking up another hobby that freaks her out a little less.
2006-11-03 10:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by jaye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Do not give it up. While I understand her fear, she is being irrational. Anything in life is a risk. You probably have a greater risk of being killed in a car accident but you still drive,right? You could choke while eating dinner. You could slip in the shower. Life itself is risk. You cannot give up what you love because of irrational fear or you are not really living and then you might as well just slip in the shower.
2006-11-03 10:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Amelia 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I say if she knew you were doing this way before you met her then tell her that, but you have to see it from her point of view, she dont want to think that why you are sky diving that when you jump there is a slim chance that you might come back to her alive.
2006-11-03 10:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never stopped my husband from doing something he loved. He is into old cars and it's kind of a burden on our finances. But I love him and knew what he was like BEFORE we married. . . it turned out okay. . .we have a 1967 Dodge coronet
2006-11-03 10:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by CJ P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh no , and that sounds like so much fun! the croc hunter faced danger everyday but his wife didn't stop him!
2006-11-03 10:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋