HELP ME! I AM HAVING PROBLEMS and i need someone to figure it out?

Question

Ok so basically my boyfriend of 2 months is somebody I like a lot and I haven't ever felt this way towards someone before. He tells me he loves me one minute and the next minute he will be mad and screaming at me saying we need time apart, then he apologizes and ALWAYS finds a way to make me drop the subject and get on to something that will make me forget that he just called me a *****. He always is so rude when he is around his friends and he seems to be really wrapped up in his reputation. one time he told me that he was breaking up with me for 2 weeks so he can have sex with a girl he met in minnesota and then he said he would get back with me but he didnt want to cheat. I am so nice and vulnerable to his behavior that I let him walk all over me. Last night he said we needed time apart and we got in a fight, then i told him i had to go eat and he was like but i still wanna go out with u i still like u please dont be mad at me. It was totally stupid. He makes me somad but i lovehim

Answer 1

Your what we all call men and women in here a REAL DITZ or = dumb and stupid as a door knob. Cant say anymore other than your a true and meaningful DITZ

Answer 2

There is no easy way to say this. End this relationship NOW!! This man is nothing but a manipulative, controlling man. He knows this and is using it on you. This relationship is already abusive and you need to cut all strings IMMEDIATELY! He may be calling you names, but hitting or worse is next.
I am wondering a couple of things here. First of all, how old are you? My guess is you are in high school (if I am wrong, my apologies). Secondly, how many guys have you dated? In my opinion, there are PLENTY of GREAT men out there. You should be dating different guys to see what you like/dislike. I am a firm believer that for every guy you date, you are one step closer to meeting the one that is "Right for YOU". From what you have said, this current relationship is not it. IF he really loved you, he wouldn't tell you so one minute then want to break up with you the next, it also sounds as if he is using that line to make you feel guilty and give him what he wants (sex). Real relationships do not work like that. A true relationship has mutual respect, honesty, caring and kindness. Not to mention love. Futhermore, any man who truly loves his significant other would NOT be rude, hurtful or vindictive. He would defend your honor. It doesn't seem he does that. Personally, from the sounds of it, this guy loves only one person in this relationship...HIMSELF! Stand up to him and end this relationship NOW. Let him see t hat you CAN do better, deserve better and are the STRONGER person in this relationship. Good luck.

Answer 3

I've seen and heard this alot through the years. If you don't start now, you'll never be able to do it throughout your life. You're in a position that will let him and other boys, and later men, control and abuse you. Maybe not physically, but probably, and for sure emotionally. Have you ever watched a tv show or movie where the woman is abused, but keeps going back to her husband? That's what you're getting started in. You need to get away from that kind of boy, before it turns into real serious trouble.

Answer 4

Wake up, this isnt true loveor at least not two way. It sound more like infatuation. Either way youre in a one way relationship and as you know this guy is definitely using you. Youre letting him have his cake and eat it too. By doing what hes doing is just impressing his stupid little buddies and nothing more but hes showing he "owns" you and youll do whatever he wants. Move on and let this loser be with his pals and find someone who will appreciate you for you and will treat you like a real woman. Move on and dont look back. Good luck

Answer 5

Many times we fall in love in what we see the person as in our mind, instead of what they are actually like. Let me draw a comparison, did you ever see a product that seemed really good, but when you bought and used it you found it really sucks? Well same thing here, except of course, people aren't just objects we can put away in a box and forget about, we have fealings that get in the way of our better judgement.

So you have fallen in love with a person because you see many good qualties in them, and that's how love works for anybody. But there are also many bad qualities in a person, and you have to be willing to accept them to have a realationship. Now are you willing to accept someone who dumps you every time they want to have sex with someone else, or uses yelling to shut you up? I would hope not. Believe me there are many other men out there who you would fall even more in love with, and they wouldn't have this excess baggage.

Answer 6

It will only get worse from there. Take some good advice. Even though you love him or you think that you do. Is it worth all the mental and there will be physical abuse that he is dishing out to you. Can you go through the rest of your life living like that. The hardest thing to do is stay but the smartest thing is to realize that's not how you want to live you life and that you deserve better. No woman deserves to be mentally, sexually and physically abused. I do wish the best of luck to you. I hope it works out in which ever way you choose.

Answer 7

He is emotionally abusing you BIG time. It seems he has u wrapped around his finger. How can u let him treat u like that and walk over u. Just listen to yourself and maybe you'll realize what he is doing to you. Next he'll most likely be physically abusing u. U need to drop him now. There is many more boys out there who I'm sure would treat u a whole lot better that. U need to wake up and recognize!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

He doesn't love you, he just wants to control your emotions... and you're letting him! Don't let him. Dump him. Move on... there are better boys out there.

You could also spend some time doing things for yourself without being concerned about boys. Spend some time with your friends, don't mope around about him. Focus on something new, like art or dance. You need to keep active so you don't dwell over him. Read a really good book before you go to bed so you don't think about him when you fall asleep.

Answer 9

It is time to leave and find someone who will respect you. There are Real Men out there who actually treat women like women. They don't abuse them by calling them names. They don't cheat on them. You are worth FAR more than that and you know it. You need to be strong. Do not answer the door. Do not answer the phone. What kind of diseases do you think he will pick up and kindly give to you from one of his 2 week escapades. You don't need that. He tells you what you want to hear because he wants to keep you around since the others don't work out for him. You are being used by a boy who is a jerk. It is time for you to move on. You have only been with him 2 months. It isn't like you have been with him years (be thankful for that one) You know is time, or you wouldn't be on here asking for help. I will be praying for your strength and wisdom and 10,000 angels to help you say NO.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry to say this, but even though u love him, he doesn't love you back. If he was willing to leave u for someone else he's known for obviously less time than he's known you, just for something that u aren't ready to give him, then he needs to find someone else. Guys try to cover up their @$$hole mistakes by saying that their doing it so u wont b hurt. Its bull. Guys think with their balls, not their brains, and when they say that their breaking up w/u, to go w/another girl, for your own good, he's totally wrong, and I advise u not to take him back when he's done screwing her. Also, if he's rude to u around his friends (or anyother time, for that matter), but nice when ur alone, then its not worth it. If he makes u cry, miserable, angry and doesn't seem to care, then he's an @$$hole. Get rid of him.

Answer 11

WOW! Drama! Ok first of all do you know if he has some psychological problem like bipolar or manic? That could be the reason for the hot and cold. This is a tough one and you just ned to love yourself and guard yourself. You can't help who you love but you can help who you let hurt you. Good luck with the relationship.