My boyfriend and I used to have sex one or more times a day. We moved in together about 2 months ago and now it is like he only wants to do it once a week. two if I am lucky. why? He used to love sex. He recently got a new job, working around women and he didn't at his last job. Could he be cheating or am I just paranoid? I need to know because we are getting married soon.
2006-11-03 10:20:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not necessarily. It's not as exciting when your partner is there all the time and is completely "accessible". Or, he could be stressed at his job.
A lot of married people I talk to say that sex decreases once they move in together. Talk to him, it might be that simple.
2006-11-03 10:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by wwefna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the key answer is his new job. Perhaps he has a lot more pressure on him now with a lot more responsibities. I am sure it is not that he is working around women, after all it doesn't matter where you go there are always going to be women around.Maybe also it could be adapting to living together. Was it your idea or his to live together? You seem to have some doubts about your relationship, if l was you l would certainly sort those out before you even think about getting married or it will only cause you a lot of grief. Try talking to him tell him exactly how you feel and l'm sure that if there is anything going on, you will know, you will feel it in your heart. Please don't just accuse him of doing the wrong thing without proof as it could break up your relationship. Remember a womens intuition is normally very accurate, unless for some reason you just have the little jealousy thing happening at the moment. If the only things that have changed are what you have mentioned l honestly think that you are just being paranoid. Hope l am right. Good Luck.
2006-11-03 11:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you assume that he's "cheating" just because he got a new job "working around women"? If that were the case, we'd all be in trouble!
Seriously, most people fall "in lust" in the beginning and all they think about is "sex". That feeling may be exciting and fantastic but it doesn't last "forever". Hopefully it is gradually replaced with a deeper love and respect for your partner.
Just because you don't have sex "every day" anymore doesn't mean anything is "wrong". You live together now, you are always available so maybe he is feeling a bit more "relaxed".
You mentioned he recently "got a new job", maybe he's a bit stressed or tired. I think you are worried about nothing and getting "paranoid".
If you're getting married soon you should know him well enough to know if you can "trust" him or not. If you don't, you shouldn't be getting married.
Best of luck.
2006-11-03 10:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is thinking again about you and him. Now that he is working around more women now. See as for me i am in a same sex relationship and i am a tow truck driver. So I work with all guys and don't get me wrong I love the women that I have been with for 5 yrs and she is the 1 st women i have been with.But when I hang out with that guys I sometime wonder if i should go back to men. And my girlfriend says the sametimes feel the same way u are feeling. She tells me and then i relies it and then I know I have to fix it. Maybe if you talk to him on how you feel. Maybe he will see what he is doing. And try to fix it.
2006-11-03 11:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once or twice a week is not bad, especially taking in consideration that he recently got a new job...also moving in together can change the relationship a lot...if this is the only reason that makes you think he is cheating, I wouldn´t worry about it...but maybe you should postpone getting married...just untill you´re more sure about the relationship....2 months of living together is a very short time to get to know each other profoundly...
2006-11-03 10:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL......... at least you are getting it once a week, I haven't got it in soooo many months it's ridiculous. NOW he might be cheating on me. I don't think he's cheating on you, I just think that he's getting comfortable with you being around and that since you guys used to get it on life rabbits it's different now. The fun is gone.
I hate GUYS! I thought the tables were supposed to turned, guys want sex alllllll the time and us girls are supposed to be rejecting them! UGH no wonder women end up becoming lesbians!
2006-11-03 10:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cou8les counsleing is in immerdiate order. If he has changed work envionments and is around young beauties and has hushunned you, this means trouble. It sounds like HE IS NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE, becuase he would be focusing you the marrigae and trying to enjoy you leading up oit iot. It is a terrible sign what you say.
He could also be depressed and might need evaluations and meds to get him tinto the marriage meed again. He sounds like he is at least seeing someone or pothers on the side.
2006-11-03 10:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happens sometimes, because befor you guys weren't together everyday and now you live together and sexs is just there anytime. or maybe he just has a little extra stress , don't think he's cheating unless you have other signs.like not comming home, finding things like #s or unexplained exspenses. things like that. so just relax and stay calm and maybe just ask him about it.
2006-11-03 10:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to him, Married??? I would not till you guys get stuff out. that's a very big step plus I'm sure he has more stuff on his plate with a new job living to gather
2006-11-03 10:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by christine z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be really busy, and tired!!and now that you are living with eachother, he probally does not feel like he needs it all the time, and that when he does you are there and ready!!
2006-11-03 10:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋