why do married women not try to please their men?

Question

I have cooked and cleaned and did all the romantic things like flowers , hot oil massage,cards ,kisses. foreplay, ect and still cant get my wife to have sex whats up with that

Answer 1

I am sorry but she obviously is no longer excited. Sounds like she needs to find herself or something. Marriage is hard. It has so many ups and downs, but you also need to realize when you have done more than enough and it is time to give all that attention to someone who really wants it and appreciates it from you.

Answer 2

Women are getting spoiled and expecting more and more and offering less and less.
If what you are doing now is NOT working then STOP.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.
If doing everything isn't working try doing less or nothing. I bet she will miss the old you and start suggest you will get sex if do some of the thing like cook & clean & be romantic, but then when you do she will again NOT deliver. She has the power because she is in charge of the sex. Take some of the power back so you are equals and NOT her slave. Stop working so hard play a video game, watch a movie, but don't do any work. She will eventually have sex with you to prompt you to do some work. You can do a let then, but only a little. If she wants you to work like a slave around the house then she needs to be your sex kitten in the bedroom. Fair is fair.

Answer 3

First, your question should be "Why doesn't my wife have sex with me?"

Second, have you asked her why she doesn't have sex with you?

Third, you are doing what YOU think works. Ordinarily, I'd assume that these things would generate some interest but they're not.

Some men make the mistake of assuming what their wives want. When you do what you think works, and it doesn't, suddenly it's HER fault. Sorry, but it's very simple. Just ASK her; when she tells you what she wants, do just come back with the first thing that comes to your mind. Take a moment to consider what she's told you. If you don't get it, restate her answer to make sure you're hearing it right. Ask for clarification or an example, but just listen so you get it.

If that fails, see if she'll go to counseling with you so you learn how to communicate better and both be satisfied- in and out of bed.

Answer 4

Have you asked her why? Sometimes it's a physical issue, or it could be a number of other things. I know when I'm stressed out, the last thing I want is sex, even if my husband were to clean cook, and give me a massage (Good for you for doing that, my husband never would never think of doing that.)

Communication is key, be up front and open with your wife and ask what the problem is.

Answer 5

May be she is not ready or she might not be turned on by you or she could be tired. The best thing i can tell you is to sit down with her and talk to her about it. Asked her what is the matter maybe she is going through something and do not feel up to having sex or or this is a slim chance she could be seening someone else. Just talk to her about what you are feeling and let her tell you how she feel remember communication is the key to any marriage.

Answer 6

My husband doesnt do anything like that, when we were dating he used to do things like that, but now that we are married it seems like he dont do it anymore. I am not going to say that I always ask for sex, because Its random that I do want it. But if we go 1-2 days without each other, I am the one that is usually beggin for some attention. And to get into detail, my husband has been sick for the last 2 days, yea we had sex, but it wasnt like a regular. Today he called me when i was at work, and started talking to me. Remind you he dont do things like this, and our conversation leaded to sex. he said that he wanted some good cat. i told him ok. as soon as i walked through the door it was on...and twenty minutes later he already busted two. so to answer your question I please my man all the time and we only been married a year! your wife is trippin if she let a hard one go to waste if you know what i mean?

Answer 7

Honestly if you have put such care in trying to be romantic with her and she shows NO compassion. There is a BIG problem. Either she no longer respects or loves you. Possibly there is someone else.

First, I must ask.... Did you do something to offend her or upset her? Other than that - I would love if my husband would do those things! I am getting divorced and lack of compassion on his part has caused a lot of grief...... Sit her down and talk to her........

Answer 8

If you have done all that lets trade,because I do all that for my husband and its like I owe it to him. and if he does try once in a while its because we have been on the outs and I know where it is going to lead . So do you do it all the time or just when you want sex. But if he did all that and I didn't well I have my mine somewhere else because of something he did I can't get over , because there is someone else,..or I don't want him anymore, try asking her.

Answer 9

Maybe she isn't that into you anymore. Or maybe she's stressed at work/home and last thing she wants to deal with is s.e.x.

Sounds like you both need to seriously talk. Communication is key in all relationships. Remember conversation is talking and listening.

If that doesn't work....try marriage counseling.
Good luck!

Answer 10

It's because you do all of those things.

She takes you for granted, talk to her and see whats up.

I'm guessing she still loves you. There comes a point were a partnet can get sex when ever she or he wants it, the problem is that she doesn't want it as much as you.