Is moving\changing from a close friendship into a relationship a big step/difference? Can the girl really be that afraid? Would she tell you that is her main concern? If so, will you always just remain friends or will it gradually change over time?
When do you know if you’re ready for a relationship?(both in early twenties)What is the difference, if you technically act like a couple already? Is it only the physical aspect?(kissing/sex/holding hands).
Anything I can\should do? She DON’t like speaking about it….
Am really a dumbarse in this area!!
2006-11-03 10:15:55 · 8 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When I mention the topic of commitment\feelings and relationships with my close female friend she changes the topic and won't speak about it,even though I'm not referring to 'us'.I only ask for her views,she goes quiet.WHY won’t she talk about this with me???
Recently she thought that I started dating a girl and she practically ignored me for a week and contact is still on-off,not like it used to be.Was this jealousy or just a coincidence?My behaviour HAS NOT changed towards her and I'm not actually dating anyone.I was told she is happy for me, if so,why wouldn’t she ask about this girl,seeing she’s a good mate?
Also when I joked she had a new boyfriend she shouted down the phone "what f**king boyfriend! There’s no one, I wish I had one,f**king hell".Why'd she get so angry?
Am to meet her this wkn,she said no serious conversations(referring to relationships\commitment\feeli... I believe),I asked her why and she’s gone quiet on me since.WHY?
Have I done anything wrong?
2006-11-03 10:16:17 · update #1
OTHER INFO:Might be useful....
I keep going out with my close female friend,(in touch practically everyday) we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us. While we're out we flirt, tell each other everything, feel very comfortable with each other, sort of act as a couple....
I've noticed that she does not like it when I mention other girls that have caught my eye, she changes the subject ASAP. When I mention if she's interested in anyone, the answer is always no,she hasn't pulled anyone when out,etc...we kissed once after 1 night out(a few months bck,very passionate) but nothing since (wud remain only friends),we just keep meeting up,in constant touch etc
2006-11-03 10:16:47 · update #2
you two have been developed a mutual understanding which more likely you both feels the feeling of a couple or bf&gf. becuase you've been start as a very good friend and probably a best friend but you didn't realise that you have developed a relationship already through mutual understanding. but you both will feel awkward of your real feelings as you still thought that you are just friend and nothing else but behind there's already a special feeling that been developed. There's a possibility as well that one of you scared to feel this special feeling otherwise your relation as a friend will be broken, but i'm pretty sure there's a LOVE hanging in the air already between the 2 of you. sometimes denying of the real feeling make things confused and weird..wish you luck!
2006-11-03 10:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Simply_Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of you're a dumbarse, yet i think of she has achieved a sturdy interest of bobbing up you experience that way. It sounds like she is enjoying the standard head video games that scared ladies play. She is petrified of dedication(or she would not see you as a suitable suitor). If it wasn't a head interest she could be open and effortless and does no longer prefer to conceal the place you stand. She perhaps an thrilling female yet perhaps you need to look at why you will possibly prefer to attach to a playa. this kind of ladies have continually brought about annoy in my adventure. She's a heartbreak interior the making. BTW, that pal of yours sounds like a greater physically powerful roll of the cube, amigo.
2016-10-15 08:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by tsang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously want more from the relationship and have moved well beyond the 'just mates' phase in your feelings. Go for it my man. Clear the air and if it works, it works. If it doesn't then be man enough to remain friends with her (you already have a lot of history together), but find yourself a nice girl whether she speaks to you or not!
2006-11-03 21:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by Unbiased 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On reading the additional details it appears you are being backward in coming forward if she's getting angry with you then you clearly are sending he mixed signals, be blunt and say how you feel outright, if you accompany this with some grand romantic movie style gesture she's yours.
2006-11-03 10:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bumblebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is weird, and i dont think that is a normal behaviour. Normal would be if you was dating someone and she stopped talkin to you, then she would be jealous yes. But her not talking about a relationship and always freaking out like that, i really dont know. If you know she doesnt like talking about it then dont.
2006-11-03 10:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's so over protective when ur not going out, imagine what itll b like once u are...
2006-11-03 10:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Traveler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder then words whisk he off her feet wine and dine her,flowers ,kiss her,anything you can think off tell her how you feel tell her what u want.hope it works out
2006-11-03 10:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wanna answer this...the questions too long...and i don't understand it............sorry!
2006-11-03 10:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋