I have a question about molestation-can anyone help?

Question

Throughout my teenage years I had recurring dreams of being molested as a child. I had a few dreams where I was being molested by my grandfather and I would always wake up feeling feeling wierd and awful. I also had a dream where I was having sex with my father (I can't even tell you how awful I felt when I woke up from that dream). And there is one other dream I can specifically remember where I was being chased by some "faceless" unknown molester.

The strange thing is that I don't have any conscious memory of anything like that happening to me, and I really don't think that any relatives did anything like that to me. But I can say that growing up I always felt "very damaged" in some way, and even today I feel very uncomfortable around children, like a fear deep down that people are going to think I'm trying to harm their child.

I can also say that all my life growing up I've always felt like a very angry person.

Any insight is appreciated.

Answer 1

Uhhh...You're going to have to take a deep breath, and begin to really take seriously, that your unconscious IS trying to tell you something.

Please find a reputable therapist and, if possible, group therapy at the same time. Your mind is trying to tell you, that it is time to face and consciously deal with what was done to you. Your symptoms are classic, for abuse of some type. BUT you also need a lot of support from others in a controlled, safe, secure setting. Your unconscious mind will begin to release memories to the conscious mind, as you are stronger and can face it. No matter how awful, you will not remember anything, that you are not capable of dealing with -- it is a process.

You will have to reach into yourself, and tap into your strengths. Underneath the anger, you are probably a very caring, loving, sensitive person.

YOU WILL get through this. Please take the step. If you don't deal with it, you will most likely never have a full, loving, intimate relationship with a person of the opposite sex.

If you deal with it, you may re-experience alot of emotional pain, but when it's done, it's DONE, and the nightmares will cease.

You will own yourself.
It is worth it.

You are not alone.

Answer 2

Some people have such traumatic events revealed in dreams, some when they have a child grow to be the same age they were when they started being molested. If your mind is ready to handle it, that's when it comes up, and not before. Call some locally respected churches and get referrals to qualified Christian therapists who can help you to process what is coming out in your dreams. I don't believe we have past lives (one is certainly enough!), but you are describing the typical Post Traumatic experiences associated with being violated, and you would be wise to get some help to work through this so it doesn't harm your current life and that of your ability to be in healthy, loving relationships both now and in the future.You will feel better for having dealt with it, both now and in the long run, even though at times it is very hard to deal with. If you have a very trustworthy, safe and reliable friend, I would ask for their support as you go through this-being able to talk about the counseling sessions, the insights & feelings that come up, etc. It is the hardest & most freeing thing that you can do to sek help with what your mind is throwing out to you.Lifted you to God in prayer for wisdom and strength on this, blessings on you, take care & drop me a line if you ever want to.

Answer 3

Agreed. It's now not a guffawing subject. The folks who believe so are unquestionably ache from a few loss of experience that's past me. "haha that man down the road is a pedo he touches youngsters" <--- does that appear humorous or twisted? Let's say we are speaking approximately any now not good identified man or woman. Whether this man or woman did actually dedicate the act or now not, it is disgusting, to mention the least, to make a funny story approximately the problem. It's some way for the haters to bully MJ and his lovers. They understand he is blameless. They simply wish to piss off or harm different folks. What a pity.

Answer 4

You could be experiencing repressed memories that may be very real. You could also be experiencing dreams from a past life. Either way, you should seek counsel from a therapist that specializes in molestation. Either way you win. You learn the truth that you were molested or that you were not.

Answer 5

You should try hypnosis. That is really the only way to uncover a repressed memory...if there is one.

I know of someone (close to me) who repressed a childhood molestation that happened at the age of 4. She grew up in a very abusive home, and always believed that her issues were a by-product of her childhood family problems. These memories came out when she was under extreme stress at the age of 55.

The question is, if a repressed memory does surface-are you willing to deal with it and if so, how?

Answer 6

Maybe you repressed the memories and were suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and that's why you had these nightmares.

You don't say how you're feeling now. That would be interesting to know.

Here's a website about PTSD where they mention child molestation:
http://www.growingwell.com/themes/theme_nov2001.htm

I wish you peace.

Answer 7

Repression leads to depression..depression leads to nowhere. To feel damaged is a common downfall that many feel. It can result from a multitude of things(abuse, failed relationships, unhealthy upbringing) It is my advisement to you that you give it all to God. Any hatred, uneasiness, anger can be alleviated with prayer. You are the only one who can control your thoughts or actions. If you dwell on negative feelings, you will remain negative/angry. If you focus on positive things...positive things will happen for you. Therapy is an option you may consider. God Bless, and best wishes.