Spanking spouse?

Question

My husband and I were talking about fantasies. He mentioned that he would like to be tied up and spanked. Can anyone give me some feedback if you have tried this? Do you use your hand or other object? This just sounds crazy to me, but I will try anything once. If you would rather not post on the board, please email me through yahoo answers.

Answer 1

Try with your hand first. Then if he wants something more severe - or if it's hurting your hand too much - you could move on to a leather or wooden paddle, a wooden spoon, a hairbrush, a belt or whatever else he enjoys. But it's usually best to start out with a hand-spanking to warm up his bottom - that way there's less risk of bruising and he'll probably be able to take a much longer and harder spanking. Have fun!

Oh, and ignore the idiot who hinted it means your husband's gay or a transvestite. There's no connection.

Answer 2

Q1: My husband never really spanked my daughters, he said that was mom's job. He did give a couple of quick smacks on the bottom when the girls were little, and of course I had nothing against that. As far as more serious spankings go, I think that is for every family to decide but I prefer that the same-sex parent do the spanking. Q2: That situation never came up, but I would not want anyone but my husband or myself to spank my children. Grandparents might be an exception, if they stay with the child for a longer period of time and the matter has been discussed beforehand.

Answer 3

I actually get spanked by my wife. I initiated it while we were still dating because I always thought it would be a turn-on. At first she was not quite sure but then she got into the idea as well. She mostly uses a wooden hairbrush or a wooden spoon. Don't start of to hard (it might spoil it for both of you) and enjoy.

I wouldn't worry about what is "normal" - it is important that both of you enjoy whatever you do. And spanking can be a lot of fun and a bit of kinkiness can keep your sex life interesting for a long time... :)

Answer 4

Okay... When it comes to stuff like this. You go with whatever made you feel comfortable. I've never used any object personally. But I might experiment with that if I ever feel like it. You need to just relax and treat it like a fun game. I am sure you will enjoy it since that's what your husband wants.

Have a fun and BE ROUGH~ hahahahah~ :)

Answer 5

I was with a new boyfriend a few years ago and he just spanked me on the @ss out of the blue. It was kind of weird. It wasn't hard and it didn't hurt but it was different. Not bad, just different. We didn't date long enough for him to get another chance to try it though. It wasn't the sex, I just didn't like him that much! :)

Answer 6

Sit down with him and ask what HE wants.

For the first time, make the tie up secure but comfortable. Use your hand on the first time. If you both get pleasure from the experience, then you can progress to other positions and other implements.

Go for it and good luck

Answer 7

Hi Nikki,
First of all wow, congradulations on the openess and honesty. That is way cool. I think this is a hard thing for a guy to admit (hard for girls too but since guys are supposed to be tough ... you know). I think this is great and you two could have a lot of fun with it.

The spanking I personally don't understand (although I've never tried so maybe I'm missing out) but being tied up, that sounds like lots of fun to me. Maybe seems kind of wierd (why would someone want to be tied up right?) but I think it would be a lot of fun. Part of it is just the feeling of being restrained and immobilized. This can be a really fun feeling. Part of it is also being at someone elses mercy (someone you trust of course). Being tied up for who knows how long, until they finally decide to release you or until you are able to beg your way out or do (or at least promise to do) something.
Like wise, I also think bondage is the most fun when it goes both ways. Sometimes you are the one tied up and helpless, and sometimes you get to tie the other person up. I can think of all sorts of creative ways I'd like to tie someone up and I would love to have someone tie me up like that too. For a lot of people it seems only one way though (one person likes to be tied up and the other likes to do the tieing).

Personally, I've never been fortunate to be tied up by my wife. Hard to approach this subject and she's never shown any interest. Ironically, I think her sister would and we tease her about it all the time. I gave her handcuffs for x-mas last year - hehehe (she deserved it though - she gave me fishnet stockings and a garter belt). I've tried it sometimes by myself with handcuffs or chains (those silver pet type chains with little locks work so good for this kind of thing :-) ). the bondage is fun but lacks something when you're the one that holds the key and you can free yourself at any time. Also lacks something not being able to do it with someone else (again, someone you trust). It is fun though and personally I think you should give it a try.

Would also love to chat more about this anytime. I'm at [e-mail]
Bert

btw - the cheerleading uniform isn't for roleplay (although it would work well wouldn't it?), it was my Halloween outfit this year :-).

Answer 8

I think it's great that you're talking about fantasies and that you're both willing to actually work on them. Just go ahead and do it - you can gauge his reaction as you spank him with your hand, or whatever. it's about pleasing each other - and since you're married - it's all good!!! Enjoy!

Answer 9

Doesn't this strike you as bizarre abnormal behavior? And do you want to be part of that behavior? Will you be able to see your spouse the same way after? Don't you think this is more appropriately addressed by a psychologist? This fantasy must have some strange roots.

Answer 10

Use whatever you want to spank him. If you're comfortable doing it, he will tell you what he likes. You may laugh your way through the first one but try it if you want to.