every night we hear her cries because she gets beat she has bee n talkin t us cause she has no1 wen she lifted her daughter there was brusies there we called the police but she didnt say nuffin she has cameras in the house cause her husband watches her she has no where to go to we tried to help her then the man went mad he put a knife to ma friend scarlets kneck a long time ago he is sikh and very dangerous were all very scared his daughter jessica is only 3 yrs we live down blair close then things get spred round quickly there has been loads of trouble in ma life but this is the worst she really needs help we dont kno wat to do ma friens mum would go there but shes pregnat too plzwat do i do?
2006-11-03 09:51:35 · 11 answers · asked by tiaraqueen101 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You know I wish there were more people like you out there that want to get involved...when somebody is being beaten it is the responsibility of any passerby to report. No one should have to endure such treatment. When you hear the arguing, call the police right away. You can request that it be an anonymous call to protect you. Don't wait, as soon as you hear trouble, your fingers should be dialing...it takes a while for some officers to respond on scene and time is of the essence. This man needs to be caught in the act. He will be taken away and the woman will have a chance to get out right away and find a safe place. Most areas have safe shelters. This womans life might just be in your hands...one time she might be beaten so badly that it would be enough to kill her. She has to rely on people like you for help.
2006-11-03 09:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by lyfsavr1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am an adult that grew up in a similar situation. The only thing you can do as a neighbor and friend is give her the name of a shelter to go to. The police dept. should be able to give you the info. Make sure he doesn't see this. The child is in danger not only now but in the future. At 3 years old she thinks this is normal behavior and will therefore end up in an abusive relationship herself. If the mother will not leave for herself,ask her if its worth seeing her daughter go through the abuse every night. Tell her to think about the child and what she will go through later on in life too. CALL THE COPS EVERY NIGHT IF YOU HAVE TO. Atleast that way there is a record of the abuse. God forbid something happen to the mother, atleast there will be a pattern of abuse recorded and the father will have a lesser chance of ruining the childs life by gaining custody.
2006-11-03 10:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by DENNIS F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police every single time this happens.
Don't go over there and try to intervene yourself.
Call the state and report the abuse to child welfare. Hey, if that woman is not in a position to be strong enough to leave that jerk, then at least YOU can have the decency to save the little girl from what she is witnessing every single night when she watches her mother get beat.
2006-11-03 09:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, Some men try to cover their insecurity by hurting their spouse. I know from experience.(unfortunately) And scary as it may seem, sometimes it is safer to stay with them than to leave them.(Not saying stay, Get out!) And you end up having to move from being imprisoned in your home to being imprisoned in a shelter. Both are bad but you know eventually if you stay where you are someone will die. Even if you are just protecting yourself or your child(ren) you will be the one punished, it seems. You can't just leave a man like that, don't hurt his pride and not hide. If you go, you have to disappear and go far away. Police can only give you a piece of paper. They say it will help but it only helps if they catch him in the act or you have at least 2 witnesses. If a man can be that evil, you can bet he will not have witnesses.
2006-11-03 16:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by li'lbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call children services in your area and report the abuse of the child. When you hear the beatings call the police. All you can really do is keep calling and be there for her. Hopefully she will get the courage to leave before he kills her or the child. Also you can call some women's shelters and ask for their opinion. Someone may be able to help her from there. Good luck.
2006-11-03 09:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everytime, every single time you here her cry..you call the police.
And they need to know about the cameras, he is imprisoning her and a guy like this could murder her or the child.
Have everyone in the neighborhood call Social Services or the WElfare agency or whatever it is in your area about the daughter..they can remove her from the home and protect her.
This should be done NOW! They are available 24 hours a day.
2006-11-03 09:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, get her out of there. There is always someplace to go, friends, family, women's shelters any number of places. It is a common weapon of abusers to convince their victims that they have no place to go and it simply not true.
Call the local police department. They will have information on agencies in the area which are in place to help people in that situation. I am not familiar with your area, but there will be some sort of agency in place to help victims of domestic violence. If you are uncomfortable with calling the police department, call the local hospital. They would also have that information on hand. Most hospitals have either an on-staff Social Worker or Advocate who would be more than capable of helping her.
Social Services is another resource for finding a way out of the situation. They would be able to provide shelter and protective services.
Contact a local church. Many of them are in a position to help as well, if nothing more than standing beside your friend as she makes the first step on her own.
Your friend needs to get out of there. If she is not willing to leave for her own benefit, she needs to get her daughter out of there. A man like that will not think twice about hurting that child. Protect her if her mother won't.
I know it is hard. I know you don't want your friend to get hurt and I know you are afraid of this abusive man. He has tried to take her power from her and you. Don't allow it. Stand strong for and with your friend and know you are not alone and there are people who care and are willing to help. Get involved!
2006-11-03 10:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by lauretathar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physically stay away.. you don't want to get hurt yourself or further endanger your neighbor. HOWEVER,,, you must contact the police and/or the Department of Child and Welfare services. Call everyday if you have to. Doing nothing can cause both of them their lives. Good Luck.
2006-11-03 10:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by curious for knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look at if from your husband perspective and think what it was that you did wrong that made him need to hit you. I feel it goes both ways in every situation. Maybe your husbands actions were not avoidable because of what was said.
2016-05-21 21:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report to the local police and ask for a number for her to call for a woman's shelter. Talk to her and try to talk her into going to a woman's shelter. Hand her the number.
2006-11-03 09:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋