How can I work in one state and leave my daughter in another and not lose custody?

Question

I want to work in another state and leave my daughter with my mother in another but do not want to lose custody when i come back.

Answer 1

you cant. you either want to be a mother or you don't. pick cause she should be your whole life

Answer 2

Any time you abandon physical custody you run a risk of attack. You have three potential opponents; the father, your mother and the state. Plain and simple, leaving her for an extended period is a risk. But, keeping in mind who your potential opponents are, there are several things you can do to minimize this risk.
First, the law does not consider it "abandoning" a child if you leave them with a proper, legally empowered guardian. So, draw up a power of attorney or guardianship to give your mother some limited legal authority over your daughter, including especially the right to consent to medical care (and education if she's old enough for school). Keep a copy. This reinforces your position that you are not abandoning her, simply leaving her in the care of a willing, capable family member. Assuming your mother is decent, this virtually eliminates the state as a threat. It also greatly weakens any argument she could have that you abandoned the daughter to her. There is a huge legal difference between running off and leaving a child versus a considered, consentual agreement between you and your mom. Particularly when documents are in writing.
There is little more you can do to defend against the father. The best defense is to ignore any threats or control issues until he actually files in court. Once he does, if he does, most states will give him a presumption over your mother. Unless he is somehow unfit as a father, you'll have to return to take physical custody of your daughter, or run extreme risk of losing custody.

Answer 3

You have to figure out what your priorities are. If your daughter is number one, which she should be, then you won't take a job in another state unless you're going to take her as well.
If you do move— your childs father has a case to show that you're not caring for your child, instead having your mother do so, and that would show that he deserves custody... in the courts eyes.

Answer 4

well....here's the thing. the judge will consider you the mother as the best option for the child. as you don't want custody, the father is next in line. your mother would only have custody on the basis the father is unable to physically care for the child. in that case, guardianship will take place for your child. but if the father disagrees, he gets custody as you no longer want it.

sorry sweetie. but that's how it works. how about taking your daughter with you? worried about babysitting? take your mother too!

Answer 5

Why not take your daughter with you or get a job in the same state? I have 3 daughters and wouldn't dream of leaving any of them with anyone else to take care of. I am their mother plain and simple!

Answer 6

It really depends on your ex (her father) if he finds out, he may sue you for custody. I wouldn't chance it. Can't you take her with you and work it out? I don't think its a very good idea.

Answer 7

Easy. Don't leave the state and you don't have to think about it.

Answer 8

u should trust her thats enough.go and dont be scared im sure ur mother wil keep every thing under control