the majority of the women are all over the man, but when a man asks a question about his wife/girlfriend is cheating the majority of the women are telling him that it was his fault even if it isn't? Please explain this type reasoning.
2006-11-03 09:23:44 · 27 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This isn't silly! Ok maybe it is, sorry.
2006-11-03 09:46:08 · update #1
I think they are watching too many of those lifetime movies (my husband calls it the men haters network-hehe). They are always showing the man cheating on the wife or girlfriend. This is sterotyping and I can tell you of a few women I have known that did the cheating and the husband had nothing to do with it. It was pure lust on their part. They felt too since their husband was off trying hard to rpovide for their families that she wasn't getting the attention she wanted or thought she needed. I agree that men do get a bad rap sometimes. I believe when a man is doing his best to provide for his family and comes home so tired it is the woman that needs to help him to feel better so they can have time together. My husband always tells me that it is the woman that has all the power in the realationship and I think they often take advantage of that by doing what they want.
2006-11-03 09:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, it seems most responders here missed the point of your question. :) Soooo, it seems many women enjoy man-bashing. As you said, if the guy cheats, women respond with hatred towards him. If the woman cheats, it's because her man is a horrible partner and inattentive, so they hate him for it. So I guess the only "reasoning" I can come up with is that many women like to put down men and find any way to do it. Some kind of power trip I guess.
2006-11-03 10:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by chnchita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for all women, but I don't think all of us are like that.
Maybe the ones you are talking about have had a man cheat on them and they are "bitter".
When a marriage or relationship breaks down, and one partner looks "outside" the marriage, of course they are wrong. It doesn't matter if they were a "man" or a "woman", having an "affair" never makes anything better.
That doesn't mean that their partner did anything wrong. It just means that something went wrong in their relationship and unless you are part of that "relationship" I don't think anyone should "judge" you.
So, I personally, wouldn't blame the guy if his wife cheated on him. It's really none of my business!
2006-11-03 10:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for cheating period. I don't really care which one cheated it is wrong. I hate it when people don't accept responsibility for their own actions. For whatever a persons reason is to do so they should be man/woman enough to just get out of the relationship. It would be better off for both parties involved. I was once a cheater and I ended up getting hurt worst than what I had done to my ex husband. I have no excuse for my actions, I was selfish and very immature for what I had done. Karma kicked my butt and is still kicking my butt to this day.
2006-11-03 09:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's so not true. Maybe somehow you came across people with that kind of double standard thinking. But for me, if you cheated doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, you are the one at fault!
2006-11-03 09:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by uu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely adore my husband and wouldn't even think about cheating on him. We've been together forever and size don't matter.....unless its the size of a heart. If my husband became unable to have sexual relations, I'd love him just as much. Sexual relations are a bonus to finding real love. Real love is based on feelings of the heart not the size of a penis or bank account or anything else. Good luck to your friend.
2016-03-28 05:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Life, The 1st thing i want to say is "No baby",,,,,she (the wife) is definitly wrong. And i am sorry that happened to you. If she can not see the pain she has caused you then it is time to consider divorce. She is being a selfish, inconsiderate, unthoughtful, and careless person. If she does not know how precious your heart is or that she is being quite hurtful (and does not care) then it is time for a divorce. Listen Life,,,,,,if you have the money then it is time for a private investigator to spy on your wife and get snap shots if he can. And then take the info to the lawyers office and file for a divorce baby. It is never right for anyone ,,,,,,,,wether it be woman or man to become unfaithful by cheating on their spouse. Baby i am sorry that she hurt you. This is a very sensitive subject. Good luck sweetheart.
2006-11-03 09:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationships are tough. It takes a lot of work, love and understanding to be a happy couple. Cheating is inexcusable period, many cheater do not take accountability for their actions, which shows immaturity and selfishness. So whoever is doing the cheating is the guilty and irresponsible partner no matter the gender.
2006-11-03 10:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So your question is about the double standard women seem to show toward male cheaters vs female cheaters.
Women like to think of themselves as better than men. I think it goes back to them wanting to be equal to men, but not giving up any of the perks of being a women. This equal, but more attitude allows them to think themselves superior.
Look at jokes that women use to degrade men. "The world is so screwed up because men are in charge." They even laugh at their how unfair they treat of men with jokes like "The Women's Rules" at http://home.online.no/~warnckew/jokes/women-rules.html
I've seen this list in the work place and even on my own fridge. the thing is if men posted similar jokes at that were at the women's expense he would be in trouble. Women take full advantage of the double standard they live. If a man takes offense he can't take a joke, but women get right nasty and call him sexist if the table is turned.
So in the end they will side with the women and try to excuse her actions even though they may be wrong just because she is a women. Many women are sexist they just don't realize it.
2006-11-03 10:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because, 9/10 people won't accept responsiblity that their actions could be to blame. Always someone elses fault.
I think I am going to plead that I was posessed by the spirt of John Holmes if I ever cheat. Ummmm, not my fault. I was possesed.
2006-11-03 09:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by SRC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋