am i normal or just sick?

Question

for the past four years i've been confused about my sexuality. i like to look at other women. and it turns me on too see woman on woman. i've never had the chance to experience with another woman so i don't even know if i would go that far. my religion forbides same sex relatons. but i can't help it. i am married to a man. and one day we were in the shower and the subject of a 3 some came up. we had just had sex and watch a movie (not a porn) before. while in the shower i asked him what he though about same sex relatons. he said it was gross. i told him i didn't think so. it's just another sex preference to me. he then asked me "so you could be a lesbian" i thought about it and n said no. plus i don't want to loose my husband ovr sexuality. so my Q is evn though i've never been w/ a woman, but like them n like woman on woman; but im married. does that make me bi. or am i just going through a phaze im 20 yrs old. is this normal

Answer 1

sounds to me like you want to try it- i too am married (to a man) and i am 26 years old but i like to see girls with girls i have many bi and lesbian friends i think its ok. i have never tried anything but my friend had a female eat her stuff and she said it was incredible!!!! but she never did any of the work. i am very curious never acted on my curiosity but who knows one day maybe i will. ive heard that a female can please a female better than a man because she knows exactly what she wants, and what spots to hit. i say try it if your comfortable with it. if not cant hurt to think and fantasize..... you go girl........!!!!!

Answer 2

Yeah its normal. Beauty is an important thing and you are just admiring what you see- another beautiful woman. I feel the same way sometimes. I'm 24 and married and I see beautiful women all the time and think "wow shes hot!" and there is nothing wrong with wanting to see a naked womans body. Women are beautiful. Even though I find other women to be attractive , I'm not a lesbian. I'm straight, I love my husband and the thought of being a lesbian with another woman just doesn't appeal to me. But, that does not mean I can't admire another womans body, or even want to see her naked. The world has made nakedness into something "sexual" and "dirty" when really its just another part of ones body.

No, I don't think you are sick. It is normal to have the feelings that you do and it does not make you lesbian and does not make you bi.

Answer 3

It is normal to have erotic thoughts and this is probably a phase. Such thoughts are common, especially in this day and age where they are fueled daily with stimuli from the media, which seems to want to promote erotic behavior of any kind. You're not bi. You're not gay. You're a woman with erotic thoughts like any number of passionate wives. You are an erotic person with an acute sense of physical pleasure. You know what pleases you and are quite confident you could please other women. It's the easiest thing to do. You are an expert on the female body. But you chose the high road. Greater responsibility. More to learn. A new and strange creature. It's not the easy road, but the rewards for hanging in there can't be beat. You have a husband that is depending on you to be there for him. He doesn't want to lose you. Hopefully, you are an honorable person that keeps her word and will always be his. He's counting on it. You should also be able to trust him to be there for you forever. You promised. He promised. Forget about other women. Forget about other men. Love your husband. Your children will someday thank you for it.

Answer 4

I don't believe there is any such thing as normal. Every person is unique. So technically you shouldn't classify yourself as a lesbian or heterosexual. You can only say that you never had a lesbian experience.

If you were to have a lesbian experience then it is likely that your brain will set off a series of neurotransmitters that will give you a sense of excitement and gratification and well-being. Warning that stuff is highly addictive. It's like an alcoholic getting his first drink. Do you want to go there? Do don't need it, and it won't do you any favors.

My recommendation is that people who have a predisposition toward crossdressing shouldn't go there. People with a predisposition toward alcoholism should go there either. And people who recognize they have a predisposition toward the gay or lesbianism shouldn't fool around there either. If they do they will never, ever get out. They will be addicted and usually regret it.

Answer 5

Ok listen up you are normal. I am 24 and married. Since I can remember I have though that lesbian sex is sexy. I have never had a lesbian relationship and although I want to I never would because it is against my religion. I feel everyone likes to woman on woman. The fact that your husband says it is gross suprises me. Has he never watched a porn? Just stay trur and faithful to your husband and remember fantasies are called that because that are not meant to be fullfilled.

Answer 6

For one thing, society, porn, magazines, media, portray woman as being beautiful. So I think it is natural as a woman to look at another woman as I do, not sexually, but complimentary. You may just want to experience this, but is this worth your marriage? I think it is a normal thing to be curious, but depends on how strong your desires are. That you only can decide. Do you want your husband making love to another woman out of your curiosity of woman. Many things you need to consider before your fantasies turn into reality. Is this really what you want. Good luck with your choice.

Answer 7

I've had the same thing but turns out the guy was hiding things from me that I should have known, it could insinct of tellin you something's wrong. Or maybe you just have some small physical issues. Try getting to know him better and perhaps see a doc.

Answer 8

I married young as well and had some of the same curiosities. I never acted on them or told my husb., they've eventually waned off and i almost never think of it anymore. So I kind of wonder if its not a sort of phase for women our age?!

Answer 9

Women always look at other women. U could be bi though. Perhaps u need to try it out and get it out of ur system

Answer 10

its normal for that kind of stuff to turn you on, my girlfriend is the same way, we are considering having a three some, but she's definitly not a lesbian, or bi. theres nothing wrong with how you feel, you are normal