A week ago was our aniversery for 13 years. Ive been sleeping at a grand casino in a hotel room for about a month now all alone. My heart is torn to peices. MY husband is 32 and slept with a drop out gurl who is 17! They have been secretly together for 2 years and i found out the girl is pregnant or has been getting signals. Im so depressed. Right now the 17 year old is probablyin my BED! Just because 4 years ago this guy made out with me now i think hes trying to give me pay pack. Was i the one wrong or was he. I need details...Is it time to get the divorce papers or get back my man?
2006-11-03 09:04:12 · 19 answers · asked by *StarFashion* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to divorce him and don't waste any more of your time on this man. A one night stand is bad enough, but a 2 year affair?? Come on! Your husband may feel regret and even believe that he loves you but he does not have any respect for you whatsoever. You cannot have a successful relationship without mutual respect, let alone a marriage.
I understand that you may feel that you were somehow responsible for this because of what happened 4 years ago. You really aren't, even if he tries to make you believe that. You are never responsible for another person's actions. If your husband was unable to deal with an issue involving something you did, he should have sought professional help/counseling if he felt that the marriage was going to suffer. As your husband, he owes it to you to let you know if he's having a problem that may effect the marriage since the marriage belongs to both of you, not just him. He should have at least had the decency to have asked for a separation/divorce once it was apparent to him that he was going to disrespect the marriage like this.
If this girl is pregnant and has the child then that is something you will have to deal with everyday that you stay married to this creep. Unless you're looking forward to having a bastard step-child then I suggest you get out of this ASAP. If he was able to carry on with a 2 year affair knowing it would break your heart if you found out then he most likely will do it again. You don't need this stress in your life. Get into counseling. They can help you deal with the anger and may even prescribe something for the depression. Try to build a support system of friends and family that can help you get through this. Do not even think about doing something to get back at him that might get you arrested. Leave this situation with dignity and self respect!
2006-11-03 09:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont find excuses for what he is doing. If you cheated before doesnt mean he has to do the same. If he loves you he would try to make things work. He wont be with the 17yr girl, she will get tired and find a guy her age. Now why are you in a hotel and not him? kick his *** out! I think you should divorce him if he did that for 2yrs, I dont think you want to be with someone like that. Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater!
2006-11-03 11:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were both wrong, but I have to say he is more wrong. If you only made out with a guy once and he has been sleeping with a girl for 2 years ... that is over the top.
You at least need to go to marital counseling. If he won't go with you, go alone. They will help you decide what is best.
If you can't do that, at least talk with him. If he won't change, it is time to get a divorce and move on.
2006-11-03 09:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get divorce papers, I believe in love and for better and for worse but he is hurting you. I know that I wouldn't want to be in a marriage like that. Remember that nothing is wrong with you, something is wrong with him! Come on he went from a woman to a child! That's just wrong! Show him that you will get the best revenge and call the police on him for statutory rape. Good Luck!
2006-11-03 09:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time you stop spending money on a room, knowing you have a bed of your own. What's done is done. Its up to you two to work things out. Be it negative or positive, whatever the outcome is learn from it, and go on with your life. Just make sure you make better decisions in the future.
2006-11-03 09:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all it was wrong rom both of u to cheat! second if u were just making out with this guy one time and he is doing this for two years he is wrong and I think u need to pack ur bags and get out of this! It not just breaking u it is breaking ur soul and that will never heal! If he really got this girl pregnant he is so wrong and u gotta make him pay for this
2006-11-03 09:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tiny T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce papers
2006-11-03 09:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by drz9kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband likes school girls !!! they have been carring on for 2 years, she maybe pregnant and your thinking of taking him back , dont think so. if you were not enough for your husband to keep him at home for the past 13 years, what makes you think things would change now. its your husbands problem and not yours. so get yourself out of that hotel room and start living again. leave him and his mess in the past
2006-11-03 09:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by GAIL W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you would even ask this question. Dump the guy - he's a loser.
Are you afraid of being alone? Well, if you "get back your man", who by the way, isn't yours anymore, you're going to be put through this over and over. Don't you think you deserve better?
2006-11-03 09:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by theophilus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, and report your husband to authorities. 17 is underage. And two years ago she would have been 15. Even worse.
2006-11-03 09:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mandee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋