What should I do in this situation?

Question

I have been with my bf for 3 years. I have a best friend of 9yrs. They absolutely hate each other. In recent past my best friend has offered me lots of money if I would just leave him. I haven't taken her up on the offer. She said that he is controlling my life and I need to be away from him. I have broke up with him one time because of her and him getting into it. When my bf and I got together I quit talking to everyone except her. He wants me to quit talking to her. He says that she is trying to manipulate me into getting out of the relationship with him. I feel like I am in the middle here and I don't know what to do. I love my bf very much and I do think we can be happy together if she butts out of our business. But at the same time I don't want to lose a friendship. My bf says he should come first over her and there shouldn't be a problem dropping her from our lives...I just don't know what to do.

Answer 1

Dont gve up your friend im sorry but your friends will always be your friends if they are true to you but boyfriends can easily come and go and at the end of the day none of them should be telling you to stop seeing the other one if they loved you they wouldnt do that n put you undre pressure!! although i think your bf should be extremely important to you he has only been around 3 yrs whereas your friend has been there ten times longer.... think about who has been there the most but dont loose contact with any of them this isnt your fault they dont like eachother so dont you loose out because of it!

Good Luck..x sounds like a situation i wouldnt like to be in!!

Answer 2

Best Friends are silver and gold.....but boyfriends are a dime a dozen.
You had this friend a long time before this bf came along and she will be there long after he has gone.
Do not give up your friend.....you will find her as very supporting all during your later life...long after this bf and many others have come and gone. A good friend knows all your faults and loves you in spite of them. A good friend will never ask you to change to please them. A good friend will never leave you hanging when another one comes along.
Why does she hate him? There might be a good reason that you are not seeing, but she is. Maybe you need to back off this boyfriend for awhile and just spend some time with the friend.
Why does he hate her also? He may have a control issue and you don't even want to get into a relationship like that!!!

Answer 3

Well you are in the middle.... sounds like you might be leaving out some info about the guy!!!! If your friend is true then she can see qualities in your man that scream"he's not good enough for you!!!"
Maybe you should make some quiet observation yourself!!! are you in love with him or just used to him being around? If he treats you poorly or "controls" you as she says then of course you can do better!! She's known you a long time...is she a pretty good judge of character??? What do your folks think about this guy???

Answer 4

friends always come first! do u have the feeling he is controling? If so u need to get out of that ralationsship! I think they need to talk dont sit between two chairs! They need to talk about what they hate about each other and maybe come to the line that they can exept each other so u dont have to give up the realationship or ur friendship

Answer 5

look, if u see a real future with your bf (marriage, kids, a good life) then ask your friend to butt out. if not, then leave him cuz u seem not able to handle this relationship.

Answer 6

sounds like both of them are trying to pull you apart. tell both of them to back off, and then you do what you want to do

Answer 7

I THINK THAT YOU ARE IN THE MIDDLE. BUT I SAY DON'T BREAK WITH JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE IS TELLIN YOU TO.