I am 4 months pregnant and my man makes up any reason not to have sex with me. i still feel sexy. we are starting to fight over it now and thats not good. i am starting to think its me now, but i know deep down its not.
2006-11-03 08:59:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, honestly from what I have read....some men are turned off by a pregnant women's body. Some are because of the larger shape, and some because of the fear of "hurting" something. Have you had a serious talk with him? Maybe he is afraid, you could take him to the docs with you and let the doc explain how everything is fine. Also, your vagina changes shape, size, wetness, hell even smell when your pregnant. Maybe something is not comfortable for him anymore. Try having a heart to heart with him and see where ya get first. Good Luck!
2006-11-03 09:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones are the culprit. Every woman is different. She may totally change her tune in a month. She may not. One thing though, she'll likely go back to the way she was before being pregnant within a couple of months after the baby is born. We usually do, unless we get a case of the baby blues that won't go away - if that happens she'll need to see her doctor. Yeah, she'll be focused on the baby, but if you pitch in and help her A LOT, so she isn't totally exhausted, she will have more time for you. Tip: the thing I appreciated the most was when my husband would take a turn feeding the baby in the middle of the night so I didn't have to do it every 4 hours all night long. I got a lot more rest when he helped. If she breast feeds, have her leave you a bottle of breast milk in the fridge. You might actually enjoy this quiet time with your newborn.
2016-05-21 21:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a whole lot of reasons why he may not want to have sex right now, and he may not even know why. My husband wasn't as interested in having sex around that time too, when I finally asked him why, he said that it was starting to get uncomfortably tight and that he was worried about hurting me or the baby. Now we just do it in other positions, but "What to Expect When You're Expecting" lists a whole lot of reasons why sex drive might go down including: Fear of hurting the fetus, Fear of causing miscarriage, Fear that the fetus is 'watching' or 'aware,' Anxiety over becoming a parent, Subconscious hostility toward the partner, ect. Ultimately the best thing to do is just ask your husband to be really honest about what he's feeling, and tell him that you won't be offended by what he says. If he says he does want to have more sex, but he's still nervous, there is a great/funny book called "The Guide to Getting It On" that has a whole chapter on sex during pregnancy that is really useful. Good luck.
2006-11-03 09:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by redzodd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not a lot of men go through this. They're afraid, your body is changing and trust me they still find it very sexy, but they're afraid of change and what intercourse might do to the baby. As your doctor next time you go if it's safe to have sex during pregnancy, you'll be amazed how many couples have done it. Take him with you too, let him ask questions if he has any. But this is normal and it will pass, please understand this one thing though, it's been my experience that there is nothing sexier to a man than his woman's pregnant belly. We're on our fourth and my husband is loving every minute of it, he can't wait until I'm showing to the point where everybody knows. Good luck!
2006-11-03 09:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way for the first trimester (he just got over it about 2-3 wks ago). He was afraid he would hurt the baby, so I told him if we do the nasty the only thing he is doing is rocking the baby to sleep, and the doc told me if we didn't do it the winkie would fall off =) He knew I was teasing but it worked, he is back to his annoying self wanting it everyday Good Luck
2006-11-03 09:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jessimommyof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend was the same way when i was pregnant. He said that he felt like a pervert and felt like he was going to hurt the baby. Even though I assured him he wasnt, we didnt have sex for the last 5 months of my pregnancy.
2006-11-03 09:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by cait_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happened to me, girl and he couldn't explain it. As soon as you bring that baby home, that beast inside of him you fell in love with will be back with a vengeance if your man's anything like mine! Too bad, he's got to do the waiting now. Be patient - - - a lot of people go through this. Try not to fight, but communicate, be understanding and as RARE (and frusTRATING!!!!!) as it is, still try to be aloof, demure and let him initiate. Its an ugly thing, but if you endure, his high sex drive will return.
2006-11-03 09:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please dont argue with him. He is probably feeling scared he will harm the baby, talk it over sensibly with him. Get him to accompany you to the ante natal clinic and talk over any fears he may have. Make sure he gets involved as much as possible,he still loves you..... relax and have just a hug but dont push him.
2006-11-03 09:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by cornishmaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him. he may be afraid he will hurt you or the baby. this is between you two. you need to sit down and ask him why.
re-assure him that you are not going to get mad you just want to know what his deal is. just explain to him how you feel and then make him tell you how he feels. hope this helps, holly
2006-11-03 09:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Holly D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably scared that if you two have sex that it could hurt the baby. Talk to him about it
2006-11-03 09:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋