ok im recently married and before my marraige i had a relationship plus a boy toy. the guy i was n a relatonship with was playing me so i played him. my "x boy toy" though has been on my mind lately as has my x boyfriend. evry now n then i think about the things me and this "boy toy" did and kinda have a short fantasy about the things we did while itimate. then i think about my bf and the things we did. i'm now married and love my husband to death do us part. but is this wrong of me because i keep having sexual images of another relationship? ne one out there plez help
2006-11-03 08:55:23 · 8 answers · asked by baba where art thou 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just as you'll think of things you've done with friends and family, you'll think of things you've done with ex-lovers. Now if you're dwelling on the encounters and wanting to hook up with the guys then I would suggest you immediately start thinking about something else. You can't run from your thoughts but you can control them to a certain extent. Don't beat yourself up because of memories. Bottomline is you love your husband and I'm sure you don't plan on cheating on him. In time those memories will pop into your head less and less.
2006-11-03 09:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it is wrong, but I am sure your new husband wouldn't like that you are thinking about former lovers.
That being said, do you think he NEVER thinks about his former lovers? (yeah, right!)
Your past is part of who you are. There isn't anything you can do to completely forget about men you have had in your live in the past.
The question really is ... what do you do after you've had your little fantasy? If you go and make passionate love to your husband. WOO WOO!!
If you find that these little 'episodes' are turning you OFF towards your husband, then you need to have more self control and stop the fantasies before they really harm your relationship with your husband.
2006-11-03 17:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I honestly do not think that it is wrong. As long as you do not tell him because that would be bad. I think the ex's are kinda the what if's and as human beings we are constantly going over the what if's in our head. As your marriage grows the fantasy will fade. And if it does not then act your fantasy out in the bedroom or wherever with your husband. Then maybe the fantasy will have his face instead of the other.
2006-11-03 17:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by young mom of two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, a: you love your husband, but does he do what you want in bed? if not, talk to him b: forget about the ex, and the boy toy, your married now, i had to do it, so do you, i think you just miss maybe subconsciously not being 'tied" to a certain someone, i didn't realize it until my husband told me that was the case... but maybe its different, but its not wrong, but try really hard not to think about it...
2006-11-03 17:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by babyatgradys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have control over what you think about, but you do have control over your actions. Your dirty thoughts will eventuly quit. I suggest you not act on them NO MATTER what. That would only make more problems for you. Good luck.
2006-11-03 16:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as there only thoughts and stay that way then i cant see a problem after all we all have them.
2006-11-03 17:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM NOT SURE IF IT IS WRONG,YOUR JUST THINKING IT NOT DOING IT,BUT AT THE SAME TIME HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF IT WAS THE OTHER WAY AROUND,I WOULDNT LIKE MY MAN TO BE THINKING OF SOMEONE ELSE.
2006-11-03 20:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong, you should be ashamed of yourself.
2006-11-03 16:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by Flower 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋