Ok here’s is the story me and wife just had a baby 2 mouth ago but ever since then I can’t get my wife in the mood at and I will not try to paint the picture that I am prefect husband but I do help when I come home from work I help with the baby feeding changing etc. but when we put the baby down for his after noon nap I try to seduce my wife and see is like don’t even touch me. She cleaned the instead, so when will I get to have sex with my wife again I miss it and please don’t tell me to do it may self we don’t be live in that. This has been like 4-month sine we have had vaginal sex she does not like to give oral to me either which is ok with me.
How long will it take for my wife to go back to her normal sex drive?
Thanks serious woman answers only please!
2006-11-03 08:37:38 · 11 answers · asked by v32817 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well take this from a mother of 2 beautiful children that after you have a child you aren't in the mood for almost 4 months afterwards or maybe until the baby starts sleeping the whole night throuhg which takes awhile. U most definately have to be patient and understanding, as she may feel that you won't like her postpregnant body as it is sure not the same as it once was. She may feel very self conscience as alot of women are especially about stretch marks that they didn't have before, or the extra fat that being pregnant causes so she just rather not engage in that kind of activity for fear that you may be turned off once you see her in thta postion. Also I don't know wether she had a vaginal birth, or C-section but keep in mind that you are even suppose to engage in sexual activity for 4-6 wks vaginal and 4-8wks c-section it depends on her body.. Also as the woman's body changes when she is pregnant to accomodate that baby and nuture it inside her body, once she has it her body is in shock again and it has to re adjust to not being pregnant and all the chemical balances have to come back that she had prepregnancy.. However my dear if it continues to long, I would ask that she please see that doctor to make she that she hasn't acquired the post partum depression as that attacks alot of women and they don't even realize it and no sex drive is one of the results of it. GOOD LUCK.. and remember love and patience and understand are the 3 best keys to getting back to what you had sexually or bettering it!!!!
2006-11-03 09:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by cheryl m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just had a baby, her body has gone through huge changes. and still even more changes when trying to bouce back from haveing a baby. she may not feel so desirable. all i can say is keep at it and have patience. but think about this...do you want to have more children? because more children will take even more energy out of you both (and so the sex drive has a possibilty to go down and the desire for sex also has a possiblity to become more of a chore). more children can equal less sex. so think about that. if you don't want any more children (and she may) you may want to go see a doctor about some permanent solutions (for you). just an idea.
2006-11-03 18:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just not feel very desirable right now. Give her some time and see if she changes her mind. Don't push her right now on this. If you haven't had sex in another month or so suggest it again. Probably all she needs is a little time. Good Luck!
2006-11-03 16:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read up on Post-Pardum Depression.
It isn't you, it's a physiological reaction she's going through. It's normal and many women need assistance to continue on with the lives they had before.
2006-11-03 16:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey bud... from one man to the other...your story is the same as mine, almost word for word....
The drive comes back when they want #2 or the kids are grown up a little... nothing you can do will change it... sorry... join the marriage club!!
2006-11-03 16:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by on2try 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is probably suffering from post pregnancy syndrome. I dont know if thats the correct way to say it. It happens though. Why dont you advice her on taking some counseling. Complimenting her and not insisting will help as well.
2006-11-03 17:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by urhomiesid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make her feel good in other ways were she will not expect sex. if u can make her feel better about her self, well u never know. give her time she just went through big change, just let her know u love her, thats the main thing.... oh and good luck
2006-11-03 16:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, having a baby drains alot of horomones, so it really just depends on your wife how long it takes for her to get her sex drive back.... my best friend, her daughter is 2 and she is just now getting back interested into it... it took me about a year to get back into it... i wanted it, just could not get into the mood no matter what i tried or he tried... it sucks...
2006-11-03 17:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by babyatgradys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her hormones are all out of whack!! she will get her drive back, it will just take some time. She is also probably very tired.... make sure she gets enough sleep and takes some time out for herself...like a spa day or something.
2006-11-03 16:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..wait a couple of month. it's usualy happend for woman just have birth. feel tired..bored...swing..
so be patient, please... don't push her for having a fun. it's really tired after delivering a baby. she will be ok. just relax..and enjoy having a baby.
conratulation for you & your wife.
2006-11-03 17:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by gogh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋