How many times can you sleep with someone other than your wife before it's considered cheating? I know that a guy gets another free pass the longer they are together.
Also, is getting a "happy ending" from a masseuse considered cheating?
2006-11-03 08:31:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, I think I caught an STD. I think I'm addicted
2006-11-03 08:39:51 · update #1
Just sleeping with someone once is considered cheating. And yes, a "happy ending" is also considered cheating. The only way either of these things are not considered cheating is if the husband and wife have an understanding that they have the right to have sex with other people (i.e. they're swingers).
2006-11-03 08:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best person to answer this question is your wife. If she thinks it's okay for you to get a b.j. in a massage parlor now and again, then go for it. Somehow, I doubt that would be the case. You can be fairly certain that your wife considers your genitals her personal domain, and will be upset if she finds out you've been loaning them to other women. Some couples do have more open arrangements that allow for this sort of thing, but ask yourself this: Is it okay for your wife to get a special delivery from the mailman every once in a while? How often? If the answer is say... 3 times a year, then you can likely go to the massage parlor 3 times that year as well. If the answer is zero, well, you've answered your own question.
2006-11-03 16:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by kensval 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN NOT have any form of sexual relationship with someone other than your wife ever and have it not be cheating!!!! If you are involved with someone other than your wife it is always cheating. Whats wrong with you? There is no free pass in marriage. And yes, a 'happy ending' from a masseuse, aka a prostitute posing as a professional, is cheating.
2006-11-03 16:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by miss m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET WITH THE MARITAL PROGRAM...cheating starts once your spouse 'entertains' the IDEA of becoming intimate, either physically or emotionally with another....thats why it is called cheating.
Cheating cheats the other spouse out of time, money, affection, intimacy,sex and respect.
As far as the "man" getting a free pass...not true, women live with cheaters because of a multitude of reasons and it is my poor fortune to KNOW that one of them is financial-->but it is no 'free' pass.
AND my question to ANYONE who cheats....how can you go home to another and act "normal", say "I love you" etc....while living a double life or enticing/being enticed by another? If you married for love...then by just respecting your spouse it is worng.
As far as women go, I think a woman who enters a relationship with a married man, under ANY circumstances is degrading women everywhere. Women have it tuff enough these days without there being other women who prey upon married men...and we all know they exist.
SO----the answer is that you ARE ALREADY cheating if you have to ask "how many"....because you are thinkg about it. Why not think about how many ways can I make love to my husband and surprise him?
2006-11-03 16:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally disgusting. Would you be happy to find out that your wife was cheating with you. Why don't you marry the women you're cheating with as well. 2 wives in a way. IT is better than cheating but spend equal time with both of them.
2006-11-03 16:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by HOLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time is cheating. I don't know anyone who believes that the longer a couple is together they get a "free pass" to cheat. This is totally not true. Yes a "happy ending" is cheating.
2006-11-03 16:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? Yes a happy ending, meaning oral sex - yes that would be cheating. How many times before it's considered cheating? Once is too many times. Hopefully your wife is as unfaithful as you and you get her STD's - genital warts or something fun like that. Why would you bother being married?
2006-11-03 17:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing your'e kidding and wondering what type of responses you're going to get, huh? Of course it's cheating! Anything pleasurable that IS NOT experienced with your spouse is cheating. Your "bonus" from your masseuse just indicates that you have chosen a not so reputable massage salon. how would you feel if your spouse received a happy ending to her relaxation?
2006-11-03 16:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by J D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None! Everytime you do it is cheating, stop trying to convince yourself that it's not! How do you think she would feel if you give her an STD/STI?
What if the shoe were on the other foot and she gave you one. How would you feel then?
Stop being such an idiot and grow up, if you can't then maybe you need to consider whether or not you should be married!
2006-11-03 18:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 time and the happy ending is a cheat
2006-11-03 16:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by stevie869 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋