One of my closest friends was going out with this kid i didn't really approve of. Well... she got pregnant and he left her. This was about two days ago. When she told me he left her and she was really upset and wanted him back earlier today...i just got pissed off and left. I just found out that she was pregnant and talked to her about it. she's really scared and doesn't know what to do. I feel helpless and don't know how to help or calm her...or just say something to make her feel better...help?
(She's only a sophmore in college)*
2006-11-03 08:28:08 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The best thing you can do is be there for her. Comfort her. Talk to her. Does she know what she wants to do? Is she keeping the baby? Considering Adoption? Abortion?
Just talk to her as you would about anything else that would come up in life that is distressing. Let her know you'll support her in her choices and be there the best you can.
Best of Luck.
2006-11-03 08:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to decide if she will keep the baby or not keep the baby. She has only a 12 week window to decide to have a procedure if she does not want the baby - really, the earlier she has the procedure the better for her if she decides that is what she wants. The best thing she can do is speak with her parents or an older relative she trusts. Unfortunately she has some difficult decisions to make. You can best serve her interest by not making recommendations and just supporting her decisions but if you see her going down the wrong road tell her what you think and offer suggestions.
2006-11-03 17:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, Both are old enough to know that they should have used protection. But seeing how they didn't, the only thing you can do for her is be there and have a shoulder for her to cry on when she needs it. From personal experience the one thing that most women want to hear when they have something really upsetting them is..... Everything will be OK, I'm here for you". As for the guy that left her, well remember its a big shock to both of them, not just her. Give him some time to process all those thoughts going through his head right now. Maybe he'll do the right thing and be there for her. If not, she's got a great friend like you to lean on. Good luck!
2006-11-03 16:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by ~Jen~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a sophmore in college? Thats older than a lot of first time parents these days.. Heck I'm a sophmore with 2 kids. Anyway don't do the whole mad I told you so immature BS.. Be there for her, offer to babysit.. Tell her if he left her then she should not try to get back with him, because she can do better than a guy who leaves her when she gets pregnant.. Be supportive, tell her you are a phone call away when ever she wants to talk or whatever.
2006-11-03 16:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can "say" that will make her feel better. It's what you "do" as a friend that she will remember you for in the years to come. Just stand by and help her by whatever means are at your disposal but pass no judgements.
2006-11-03 16:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that hurts , poor girl.
I dont know what would make her feel better , BUT just Be there for her , she's gonna need support , be there when she cries , hold her hand , tell her she beautiful , just give her 200% Positive Support. Let her know you support her no matter what she decides to do.
Much luck to your friend.
2006-11-03 16:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should support her in whatever decision she makes. If she wants to terminate the pregnancy then try to support in that and if she wants to go on with it then that is what you tell her is the right decision. Be careful of promising her that her lover will be back because nothing indicates he will
2006-11-03 16:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by EC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww I have a friend in the same situation.Ill tell you what I told her. I told my friend that hey exboyfriend(name here) is a jackass and hes ridiculous. He didnt deserve you. You will always have me and you best friends and your family. You are my best friend and Ill be there for you, hell Ill even change a diaper or two. So forget about that jerk and me and you both will find the perfect guy that will be sweet and gentle and all the things you look for in one. I love you.
2006-11-03 17:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by meshaangel2004 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just, speak to her calmy, don't judge her and tell her that you will be there for her and help her through this, and support her in whatever decision she makes. Just be a good friend and be there for her at this time and let her know she has someone there to speak to and who will be there for her.
2006-11-05 17:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by sweetlovinchick2k5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with her. tell her you are so sorry that she is in such a situation & just be there for her. listening is so much that you can do. also, do little special things for her. tell her that you are there for her whether you "approved" of the relationship or not-- that isn't what really matters.
you are a true friend since you are there for her in the hard times...
2006-11-03 16:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋