Is there a word that sums up the experience of two opposite cirumstances that have the same result?

Question

Example; you're gullable - people run over you, you're anal, people still run over you. Situations where it should be a different result because circumstances are so different - but the result comes out the same.

Answer 1

fate?
Murphy's law?

...are you trying to solve a crossword puzzle? How many letters? and do you have any of the letters already?

Answer 2

damned if you do damned if you don't is the closest phrase i can think of, as to a single word.....

F****d maybe

Answer 3

assume.....you assume that I have done something that I didn't really do..makes you wrong and embarrasses me.. so assume = making an (as*) out of (u )and( me.).