I hav to say; I love her dearly. But her need of controlling both me, her mother, her friends, when she is in a new situation leeds her to anger, stress wich hinder her from being her self as the beautiful person she is. It is painful, she lock her self and miss realy good potencials. There has been and still is a lot of work trying to sault tings out. When we talk about it, she seem to understand the problems and want to get out of them. She is such a wice youth, but after a day or to it is back to where we where with drama, lying, not beeing responsible and caos in her schoolwork and homeduty (wich is very few). Can anyone give som advice how to change the situation? I will be very thankful!
2006-11-03 08:23:09 · 5 answers · asked by camilla 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you allow your child to control you and she is 16 it didn't just happen chances are you forgot to teach her that she needs to understand and respect the fact that you are the parent, and although she may not like it, she must obey the rules or suffer the consequence. Which for 16 year olds is grounding and allowance cut off. Make her earn her allowance, she is 16 she can also get a job. Show her responsibility and what it means.
What you just described is not pretty, and not beautiful behavior, it is the worst scenario and your daughter is next in line to becoming a runaway, a prostitute, she is not wise at all as is she was she would realize which side the slice of bread is buttered and would not cause all these situations. It doesn't sound like there is much hope for all of you unless you seek councilinng and then again she has played the con game with you both for so long it is second nature and will probably continue into adulthood. it is a sorry thing when parents permit this kind of behavior, and then turn these people to the world to deal with, you have to take charge of the situation and stay in charge, if she doesn't like it, tell her she needs to get a job or anything to jolt her back to reality. Good luck and peace be with you and your household.
2006-11-03 08:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be suffering from any number of emotional issues. She may need counseling. Things in her past may be making her act this way. The family will be destroyed if you do not act. Help her find a trained counselor you trust. This needs to be someone who will help her look at her past and find what is causing her to act out. Make a plan to do something about this now before it gets worse.
2006-11-03 08:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sixteen and i've never talked back or raised my voice to my father, thats just the way i am, but it sounds like you need to disipline your daughter its notr always the kids fault for having to much freedom, but the parents fault for letting it happen. Your the mother, take control.
2006-11-03 08:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Alex Savager 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to be the boss of the household, let her be - beginning with paying ALL the bills! lol see how long she wants to wear the pants in the family.
2006-11-03 10:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by -:- Masha -:- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to lay down the rules and be firm with her when she breaks one of them..let her know you love her and you know whats best for her right now don't give into her you are the parent thats what she needs right now good luck
2006-11-03 08:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lost Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋