Today my friend told me truth about everything and I still can't believe it. My best friend Edward who I've known since the 6th grade is GAY! Yes he's gay...and I'm really having a hard time believing it. I'm so confused. I never thought this would happen, but it is...He even has a boyfriend. I'm thinking to not be his friend anymore because this is too weird. What should I do? Please help me.
2006-11-03 08:08:58 · 26 answers · asked by Sid 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can certainly understand your shock. It would be such a shame to throw away a long standing friendship though. I would discuss with him that fact that it wierded you out and it is going to take time to understand and learn to accept it and hopefully he can bare with you until that happens. You can still be friends but you may just want to put limitations on it such as you would not prefer to spend time with him and his boyfriend but you are willing to do things just with him. As long as he does not hit on you then I dont see why the relationship you currently have cannot continue. He did not choose to be gay and you have obviously liked him for who he is all along...believe me most gay people dont know who they are for a long time and they have to adjust too!! Good luck.
2006-11-03 08:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude, there is nothing wrong with a person being gay. Your friend Edward is still your friend, still the exact same guy you knew and still know. The only difference is his preference in partners. It's extrememly shallow to just off a friendship like that, just because he's gay. He trusted you enough to come out of the closet and let you know that he was this way. Why can't you accept it? He's your best friend. Talk to him, let him know you're having a hard time dealing with it, and perhaps you both could work on dealing with it together. That's what friends do, of course.
2006-11-03 16:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know this all has to have some time to sink in, but he is still Edward.. the Edward you grew up with, played with. He is still the same person he just happens to prefer guys. Has he ever made a pass at you. Probably not because he knows your not gay. It's not like he is freaking out beccause you're straight. He is a person with feelings and you are his friend. I don't approve of gays but ya know they have the right to be happy too.
2006-11-03 16:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ed was your friend before. Did he do anything to you to that would make him less of a friend? Wouldn't you want your friends to stick with you when some news like this came out? Grow up! Unless he hits on you, he's done nothing to change your friendship. You can still love your friend and not love what he does. Tell Ed that you're a little uncomfortable if this news is true, but you don't want to lose his friendship.
I had a good friend who came out to me while we were in college. He said "You know I'm gay, right?", and I said "You know I'm not, right?" and that was all we ever said about it. We're still good friends.
2006-11-03 16:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've been friends with this guy since the 6th grade so I definitely think that you should talk to him about how you feel. I wouldn't ruin a friendship over this though. Everyone is different, it's just the way life is.
Good Luck to you...
2006-11-03 16:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by martinaintexas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him before he starts making the moves on you! Don't let him lay some kind of guilt trip on you. (He will). Tell him: Hey man, do what you want, but don't be surprised if I'm a little reluctant to be hangin' out with you. We're friends and all but I don't want people gettin the wrong idea. We have completely different goals in life. Understand that things will have to be different. You made the decision to leave girls OUT of your life and I've made the decision to INCLUDE girls in mine.
2006-11-03 16:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by luperith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His sexual preference honestly shouldn't matter in your friendship. You didn't say how old you are but it seems you have been friends for a long time. Would you honestly be able to live without that great history? Only you can answer that question. You should talk with him, he deserves that much from you. Talk about how you feel, if your that uncomfortable maybe you can discuss boundaries. Things that would make you both feel comfortable in keeping your friendship strong - respecting one anothers feelings for starters. Good Luck - GOD BLESS!!
2006-11-03 16:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bad choice. What he does is his own business. The reason why you probably stayed friends so long and not lovers is because he's gay. So what?
Knowing that he's gay shouldn't change a thing! He's still your friend. So be it!
2006-11-03 16:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason to stop being his friend. This is probably why he didn't tell you right away. You have made this about yourself when it is not. Just calm down and talk to him--in an accepting manner, continuing your friendship--when you can be more reasonable.
2006-11-03 16:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by julz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Despite your 'Best Friends' sexual preference, he is still the same person who carries the same attributes that you found to be 'best friend' quality in the first place.
If you are truly his friend who considers him your best friend then dummy up. He is still human, regardless.
What is is about a male being attracted to males that bothers you so much? It's not as big of a deal to him as it sounds it is to you.
2006-11-03 16:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋