I walked in and caught them. I left him, but we have a child and one on the way. He said if I had been a better wife he wouldnt have needed another woman to fill his needs. Do I stay and make it work?
2006-11-03 07:48:41 · 16 answers · asked by Sassy P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd set them both on fire and watch them burn and run.
2006-11-03 08:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Enough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, he screwed up and cheated. He got busted and rather than try and make amends, ask for forgiveness and try to fix things, he blames you for his shattering of the vows he gave to you when you two got married? He has not even accepted responsibility for his actions, why would you stay?
He was wrong, he did wrong, he cheated and now he tries to make it look like your fault. You deserve better and can certainly do better than that. Go, leave now and don't look back. He will do it again if he gets away with this one, especially with this attitude. It is not you that is the problem, it is him and his weak character.
2006-11-03 16:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. His response about you needing to be a bette wife is BS. He's just trying to shift the blame. Get a lawyer, file for divorce and don't look back.
2006-11-03 16:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you just need to worry about your children and not that immature spoiled brat of a husband.
I'm sorry, but if it is possible, lose him now. He is obviously too immature to be a good parent.
If it is not possible to lose him now for financial reasons, it will be tough to deal with it on a regular basis, but his behavior will probably never improve. You will need to keep your eyes wide open all the time, not to know where he is at that moment, but keep your eyes on your kids so that you can raise them as best as possible. Have contingency plans, as best as you can, ready to implement at any given moment.
Please make certain you take care of you and your kids right now.
As far as your best friend goes, politely speak to her only when necessary, but she is not your best friend and you have to always remember that. If possible, you need to keep her away from yourself and your kids as much as possible.
2006-11-03 16:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by bird_brain_88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but you need to leave him!! For him to even dare to turn it around and make it your fault..very unfair! You may love him dearly and hate him at the same time, but if you let him get away with this then he would think "if she forgives me now then she will forgive me the second...third time!" Don't give him that option!
Good Luck!
2006-11-03 16:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by Yasmin76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly feel for you, but you should start by dropping that so called best friend. Then, divorcing your husband. There is NO excuse for cheating. Why should you stay and try to work it out when he already called himself working it out?
2006-11-03 16:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classic, he made himself the victim in this! Don't buy into the" if you had been a better wife" crap. You know what you need better than something I could tell you. Good luck.
2006-11-03 16:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. He only said that because he is mad for you catching him. I would also break up with the best friend. Time to get a lawyer and start the divorce.
2006-11-03 19:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats too bad, One thing you didn't need to see,But one you DID need to find out about..I feel for you and the kids..Hard decision to make..I wish you the best of luck Sweetie
2006-11-03 18:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what hes trying to do is put the on you,that's quite typical of blokes like him,Id make a clean break for yourself and your children and one day I hope that you meet someone who will care for you the way you deserve. lots of luck.
2006-11-03 16:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not!!
Once a cheater always a cheater....
Don't blame yourself - he was looking and so was she...Kick them both to the curb and make a life for you and your children without either of them.
Good Luck
2006-11-03 16:12:12 · answer #11 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋