im not a shy person and never used to be but i have been bullied and stuff which has made me feel bad about myself and i have lost loads of confidence and self esteem i do have the confidence to speak to people but no one talks to me and just slag me off and make me feel stupid which has made its worse
2006-11-03 07:48:32 · 11 answers · asked by Chesh » 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hang around with someone who is assertive. Study them and how they talk to ppl. Pretty soon you'll pick up on it and be as bad a-- as they are!
2006-11-03 08:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best way I know is what my mum taught me - go and look in a mirror. If you can accept the person that you see - flaws and all - it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you.
The only stupid things are the bullies (I went through it as a kid myself). If you can start believing again that you are a great person, then you will meet people who feel the same way about you. So what if you're not like them - your uniqueness is what makes you you. Besides, it seems you've come to the right place for a confidence boost.
Hope this helps.
W
2006-11-03 18:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never doubt yourself for a start! Anyway, who are these people who treat you like this and why? I have been bullied myself and I know how it feels like. People who behave like this are usually not even worth to be talked about. If I feel contempt for sb I don't even notice them; I don't keep paying attention to them, by intimidating them. Maybe you don't give these people the attention they seek and as a way to pay you back they've spread a rumour about you that is obviously nasty but not true. Most people don't like those who stand out and they tend to praise and acknowledge the insignificant ones simply because this way they feel better about themselves. In my life I've learnt that the more worthy you are the more likely to be attacked. So, heads up and don't mind these morons! Take care! XXX
2006-11-04 14:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like i've finaly got a friend, i taught i was the only one, but anyway i've overcome it so this is how i did it.
well anytime i feel that people are slagging me off i don't make them see that it hurts i make sure to press the matter so loud that my views would be heard after all who cares. Dear don't underestimate you self in anything, be of your self and don't mind what people will say about you, you are unique and special you have sometlhing they don't, so don't get worry whey they slag you, just go on with what you wanted to say, even if you have to shout.
2006-11-03 16:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by asuoonline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't worry about what others think. Love yourself for who you are. Thank God for who he made you to be - your looks, your ethnicity, your intellect, your family, your abilities - He planned it all! This will help to boost your confidence a lot. Also, make sure that you are coming across as kind to others & not full of yourself. This can sometimes turn other people off. I hope that things get better for you. Remember not to worry too much about other people's opinions.
2006-11-03 16:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by ELIZABETH B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just feel free to express your self. I know it sounds easy but i guess not easy for you to do, just think positive and think that you are unique and if they can do better you can do best... well i think its also more on the environment you are in... but just be you and be real, sooner or later people around you will recognised how good a person you are.
2006-11-03 16:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by geieyoung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullies are usually cowards, they pick on others to hide their own insecurities. Believe in yourself and don't let anyone else put you down, it doesn't matter if you don't answer their taunts, at the end of the day, by not allowing them to get to you, they're only showing themselves up.
2006-11-03 17:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by kpk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all in the attitude... just because ppl "slag" ou off does not mean that you are stupid, it means that they are stupid so with that in mind kill all with kindess and keep moving with your life!! Look in the mirror to practice facial and body expresions. Good Luck
2006-11-03 17:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try the assertiveness and confidence hypnosis Cd's. listen to them in your sleep, or simply be yourself whether others like it or not as long as you are happy with yourself what doe sit matter what other people think.
they can all go forth and multiply with themselves.
2006-11-06 20:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by gameface_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nearly everyones been bullied. i had a fight with my bully , at 13, i lost, absysmally, BUT he never even double looked me after that
2006-11-03 19:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋