What Do I Do now that t I told her how I feel?

Question

I have a friend who lives up the street.
We are both in our 30's.
She is getting a divorce for her husband cheating. I am not that far behind for a divorce for reasons she knows about. I always thought there would be time. Time to wait to tell her and ask her out. She was contacted by an old friend and has had a few dates, and it is just starting to get serious. I felt sick to my stomach. I got the guts enough to speak with her in private and I told her how I feel about her. I told her I always thought there would be more time and now I felt the time was running out to tell her. I did not want to be the old man years from now asking myself "what if?" She blushed a lot and told me she was very flattered by me.
We both have kids and both have the same religious beliefs and she is just plain perfect.
Me and my marrige is not salvagable and she knows that. I am wondering what do I do next?
Do I tell her more of my feelings?
I don't want to scare her off and I don't want her slip away

Answer 1

You have to tell her how you truly feel before it's too late.

DO IT NOW, NOW, NOW!

Just kidding, but it have to come out sooner or later, better sooner.

Answer 2

WoW.
Time will tell. I'd suggest going slow, let the pending divorces pan out. If there is an opportunity for you two to get to know each other better and the feelings are mutual, then go for it, slowly. Just date first. Don't jump into a full blown relationship thing right away. You both need to live a little after the divorces are final before hooking up with anyone again, especially for the kids sake.

Answer 3

I would wait it out. Only because she has just gone through a divorce, her husband had cheated on her and she maybe out on the rebound without knowing it by the way, it is a sad time for the both of you's going through a marriage breakup with children involved. The best is to step back, she knows how you feel and she isn't hundred percent right at the moment so it's a good thing she didn't go rushing into your arms because it would of cause more hurt and confusion because of the 'baggage' from her marriage that she will be dealing with and learning to heal. Time will tell.

Answer 4

Well since u told her a little of how u feel.. What did she have to say other than being flattered! Its good that u are telling her how u feel and i agree with u.. Go ahead and tell her how u feel to the end! She needs to know cause other wise u will be saying "what if". Later down the road.. Even if she doesnt want u that way at least u can say u told her everything.. Well good luck to u and i hope u find what it is u want...

Answer 5

Whoa! Don't you think you are putting the cart before the horse? You are still married! This is no time for you to be trying to tie yourself up in a new relationship.....you need some time. Rebounding is never a good idea. Even if you feel strongly toward her, it doesn't mean that she reciprocates. Telling you that she is "flattered" may mean "Thanks, but no thanks". Take care of your business before jumping into another relationship. The most important issue in this whole thing is the kids. The kids are going to absorb a lot of your time and energy during and after the divorce.

Answer 6

That is soooooo *sweet*! You have told her how you feel. Now you have to be patient and let her sort out her feelings so she can respond to you. Sounds like the two of you have been through some rough, emotional times...they are not over quite yet either.......She may be a bit hesitant due to the fact that she just got divorced and she may see you as wanting to "tie her down again" and she may not be ready.....I don't know the circumstances but I think I would feel that way a little......Give her some time.....If it is meant to be.....It will be.....Patience is a virtue!

Answer 7

Give her some time to figure out what she wants. She is going through a divorce right now and dealing with all of the emotions that come from that. If she is interested she will let you know. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Tell her how you feel and how you get sick to your stomach when you think about her with other guys, tell her you really care about her and would like a chance to go on a date or something. Be honest with your feelings. But be patient, don't expect her to reply back right away. It may take some time for her to grasp what you're telling her. So just wait. And when she's ready either she will be a woman about hers and tell you what's going on and how she feels, or she won't say anything and you'll know that she wasn't the right one.

Answer 9

Sorry buddy...but you are married...if your marriage was "un-salvageable" you would have left long ago...as the saying goes "when the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence...its time to fertile your OWN lawn"..I don't blame her for snubbing you...she just DUMPED a cheater!! she doesn't need another one...get a divorce BEFORE you start shopping around for a replacement.

Answer 10

I'm sorry, and I don't mean to be rude by saying this, but you are still married and you have no right to be asking anyone to wait for you now. You can't step in and, perhaps, destroy a chance for her to be happy with someone else because of what is, actually, selfishness on your part.

Please think about things before you do something that will affect others. We are fragile beings, really, and it only takes one impulsive act to cause serious harm to our lives.

Answer 11

You both are still married so you need to chill. Perhaps wait until you both are divorced first then maybe take a day or two off from relationships. Do your religious beliefs say that adultery is ok?