i am pregnant with the guy i am seeing child..he says that he doesn't want to tell his ex about the baby becau

Question

because he doesn't want her to pull away from him more than she already has...how should i feel about this...

Answer 1

I've got a question for you... why do you bother asking questions on here when you dont listen to a word anyone tells you in the first place??
I've looked back at your previous questions, and they ALL revolve around this jerk. They also make it quite clear that you have known for awhile that YOU ARE IN A TOTALLY ONE-SIDED RELATIONSHIP(if you want to call it that...) You even mention that he still carries the other woman's house keys, and that he's told you; these very words actually came from his mouth for the sole purpose of going straight into your ears; that he would go back to her!! You even chose the answers that say to leave him as the best answers... deep down you know the answers but you dont want to admit that they are true. Ask yourself this; imagine that you have had a major accident and are in the hospital...would he rush straight to your side? Stay the night with you to make sure you are taking your medicines, getting plenty of fluids,nurse you back to health, make you feel loved? Would he even take the time to call you on the phone?? I dont know him but I'm almost certain the answers are no. Sorry sweetie but snap back into reality; this guy does NOT love you. See, if you'd had listen to the advise you've been asking for over the past month about this guy,you would not be hung up on this man still, and for sure wouldnt be pregnant now! Sex meant something to you but trust me, most men only want to get in your pants and then be on their way, you unfortunately fell in love with him & now have tunnel vision to all things concerning him. This has all been a big game to the playboy and he's coming out as the winner. You DO have one route that you can take from here and although I highly doubt you will, you better take it - and that is to sue this loser for child support. Once you get rid of the love flutters and see him for the jerk he is, how he's hurt you, you will want revenge, and luckily the state allows you revenge in the form of forcing him to pay you hundreds of dollars each month for the next 18 years! Do not let him sweet talk you into not filing for support, and do not marry him just to keep him from having to pay; this is a trick I'm sure he'll try to pull. You will only be sitting yourself up for another heart crushing. And do not abort that baby, not only will it make you a cold blooded murderer, but s/he did not ask to be born, even now it is a living human being that deserves a chance at life. Put your feelings on hold and do what must be done for you & the child. Good Luck!

Answer 2

You should feel that you are not the priority for this man. You AND your child are unfortunately number two, which is NOT the way that it should be.

I would hope that you love yourself and your child enough to end the 'romantic' relationship you are having with this man who thinks so little of the BOTH of you, and just keep things open for him to be a parent to the child when he gets his thoughts clear.

I know being pregnant can be a stressful time because of your emotions and the physical changes going on, but it is also a time that you are vulnerable. You need to really be thinking about the baby that you are carrying and not worrying about him, because after all, he isn't worrying about you or the baby......he's worried about HER.

And what is even worse is that she is NOT HIS GIRLFRIEND....she is his EX. It is ALREADY OVER but he is STILL treating her as if she is the number one.

Take this to heart. I know it is hard to accept because you are expecting, and probably have all kinds of wants and desires and dreams about the future, and wanting only the best.........but he is showing you reality. Don't keep your head in that dream world. Pay attention to his actions realistically. He is giving you all the answers you need.

Answer 3

I think you should feel like it's time to close the door on that relationship, and look forward to the wonderful life you will have with your new baby. Trust me don't stay in a relationship because of child, you will regret wasting so much time down the road. (ask me how I know). Does he have a child with his ex? If so, maybe he's afraid if the ex finds out, she'll block him from seeing his child. If so, then he needs to go to court and get his visitation rights set up through the court system. But honestly it sounds like he doesn't know what/who he wants and now this is your time to pick yourself up and start thinking about the future for you and your beautiful baby!! Don't think this guy into your plans, if he's there, he's there, if not, you will be better off for not have planned your future around him or with him.

WHATEVER you do......go straight to the courts and get child support established! Don't let him play on your emotions, cuz' men will do this!! Even if things work out with you two, still have that child support established!! Listen to me on this one - PLEASE!

Best of Luck to you(s)!!

Answer 4

He shouldn't worry about her pulling away from him unless they have a child together. These things can be really complex though. He may not be entirely over her yet and may be hoping there is something still there. But he may also just want to remains friends with her because she was special to him and he wants to keep her in his life. (I can understand this, because I have remained friends with all my ex-es.)
You need to thoroughly discuss this with him and find out what is really going on in his head. If you know his best friend, you might talk with him about this too, because sometimes a best friend is the one most likely to get through; someone needs to tell your boyfriend that he needs to take your relationship more seriously since he is about to become a dad, but he won't take it as well from you.

Answer 5

congratulation I'll be really really mad cause what will be the problem if the ex no that I'm having his child unless they still together and i do not no nothing about it don't forget you pregnant to much stress not good for you an the baby.

but if i were you I'll confront the guy more about that ex cause it's not trustful if he do not have no more relation whit her he not supposed to be scared i think that he probably scared for you not too live him if you find out that his cheating on you whit the ex an he do not want to lose the child you know we never no what a ex girlfriend can do to hurt
ask him more about it make sure that you are secure whit your unborn child good luck girl

Answer 6

You should feel like he is not over her. Does he have children with the ex? Because that would be the only reason he should be concerned with her pulling away . And the concern should not be her pulling away from him, it should be her pulling the kids away from him. If there are no kids involved your pregnancy is none of her business.

Answer 7

Tell him she is his ex for a reason and your what matters now and if he can not forget her and move on with you then you should leave him and find a man who will support this baby and you. He can't live in the past and if he wants to he can pay child support to.

Answer 8

Ok....if she is his ex, why doesn't he want her to pull away from him???? That makes no sense! I would have to say that he still has feelings for her and quite possibly is still messing with her. Eventually it is going to be kinda hard to hide the fact that you are pregnant! What then?

Answer 9

forget him. I mean come on, you're pregnant, and he is worried how his ex is going to take it. Sounds real immature. I know this will be hard for you, but a dude like that probably can't do much to help you. If he does not want to make a family for you, dump him and sue him for child support.

Answer 10

Sounds to me like he's still sleeping with his ex. If you are in a committed relationship with him, then there is no reason he cannot tell his ex about the baby