my partner had affair for 3 months .they had full sex what do you think
2006-11-03 07:25:40 · 52 answers · asked by flavia d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I cheated on Bob all the time...
2006-11-03 07:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Der Bingle 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well personaly i had an affair, and there was no way i would have gone back to my now ex husband!
You dont say how long ago it was!
Did you ask why?
affairs are not always the fault of the person comiting them, they always have a reason! It's not like you wake up one morning and think oh i must have an affair today!
good news for you is shes still with you!
good luck, try and find out what made her do it?
reading other comments, i was with my first husband for 17 years and was verbally and occasionally physcally abused, it took a lot of time for me to realise how unhappy i was, luckily i have found my best friend and soul mate and most wonderful husband ever, people have affairs for reasons. perhaps she realised the grass wasn't greener on the other side !
2006-11-03 08:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was it only three months? How do you know they had full sex? And, irrespective of what I may think....what do you feel about it, assuming it is fact?. If you know, for fact, that would suggest you have had a conversation about it. You don't say how long you have been together, which may have a bearing on the situation. So, based on a scant two lines.......I don't think much as there is too little information to make an impartial, informed opinion.
2006-11-07 07:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short of physical abuse it's about the most destructive, harmful, damaging thing you can do a relationship.
It involves lying, betrayal, broken promises and vows - all things that are almost impossible to forgive, forget, and restore.
The worst part is cheaters virtually never change or stop. It gets easier every time they do it. They can talk a good 'sorry honey' talk but they rarely change.
Obviously he, for whatever reason, has no respect for you. He lied to you constantly for 90 days. He could've come clean any time, but no. Lies on top of lies. It's haunting how cold and uncaring and selfish this behavior is.
Why stay with someone who despises you and doesn't think you will stand up to their immature selfish behavior and leave them? More torture would be the only reason.
2006-11-03 07:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to play the field and sleep with other people then you shouldn't be in a relationship. It's one or the other! If you're with someone and love them then how can you justify causing them that much hurt? I think you should cut your losses and move on. Your partner obviously doesn't care for your feelings so why stay? Find someone who does.
2006-11-03 07:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends. Sometimes its for a reason, yet sometimes people is just plain evil.
The number one reason is lack of sex. If he/she is not getting any, cheating will happen.
Sometimes is because one does not try to get to know the other one, like doesnt care at all about the other one's feelings, hobbies, likes and dislikes, etc. they think because they are togther they dont need to care anymore about the other person.
last but not least: there is people who find joy in cheating, the rush of being with more than one person, somhow they find it amusing to break the heart of a loved one.
One thing for sure: once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater
2006-11-03 07:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A one night stand I could never forgive but could understand. I suppose people can get drunk, let their guard down and make mistakes. A 3 month affair is a bit different. It seems more calculated, decietful. Obviously some thought went into it. I couldn't get over that.
2006-11-03 07:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on why they had an affair. Has the spark gone from your relationship? Do you still want to be with them? Most importantly, can you trust them again? Only you can know what you can or can't forgive.
2006-11-04 01:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an extremely dirty thing to do. I had a boyfriend that cheated and it sucks to the max. It was a hard thing to do because I loved him to the core, but I broke off the relationship and moved on. Once a trust has been broken it is very hard to get it back. Find someone that you can trust fully. It has been hard for me to trust again. Good luck!
2006-11-03 07:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is one of the worst things you could do to someone. It obviously shows you don't care about the person your with because you knew that it would hurt them. It sucks right now because my spouse won't believe me that I've never cheated because I have made up other little lies i.e. logging intomyspace, stupid stuff like that. I wish there was a way to convince him....but anyways don't cheat it's f%^&*d up.
2006-11-03 10:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by Tara A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally hate it. But It happened to almost everyone at some point. Some people never find out about it. Some find out in a near the end situation.You either forgive them and keep them or let it go. You must weight it out.Would you be better off with or without this person. This is the whole truth.
2006-11-03 07:32:52 · answer #11 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋