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how do i convince her to leave him. She has a child with the stupied jerk. And he is 11 years older than her. Please i need some advice!!

2006-11-03 07:24:20 · 13 answers · asked by Esperanza 3 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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You NEED to intervene before it gets worse.

You need to take her out of the situation. Do your parents know? Do the police know? Get EVERYONE involved, not just you.

Does he just beat your sister, or does he beat his child as well?

It's a sad scenario, but right now you need to be her sister. Get her out of there.

She WILL be in denial using the excuse, "But he loves me! He's always sorry!" It wouldn't be a bad idea to send her to group therapy. However, do not push her to go there. Help her as best you can.

And for the love of God, tell the authorities! Document as many attacks as you can! Remember that pictures are worth a million words.

Even if you don't get anything now, you need to stop him from taking custody of his child. Get PROOF now.

2006-11-03 07:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2 0

This is a tough one. Many women in abused situations will stay with the person and make excuses for the person for fear of the unknown, and especially when they have a child.

She needs help if she's in an abusive situation. I would start by confronting her with the facts, offer a place for her to stay, help getting her on her feet after the change, Look up helplines on this situation etc.

I wish you and her luck. Maybe some one else on here will be able to help more.

2006-11-03 07:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by italian_eyelashes 2 · 0 0

there is no advice you can give her verbally. my suggestion is to take her to a womans shelter and ask someone in charge can she look around or if anyone can talk to her to see what she will end up like. or take her to the cemetary and get a list of all the women who died at the hands of their abusive husbands/ boyfriends. words will not do it. once a man is abusive, he will always be abusive. the anger does not go away, it only gets worse. if you do not choose my answer as the best and do not take my advice, you are dooming your twin sister.

2006-11-03 07:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You can try all you want but its not likely to work.She has been browbeaten most likely to the point that she feels that he loves her and she may think thats just his way.No matter what you say shes not likely to leave until she is ready[sadly]But that is how it works.generally.You can only tell her that you are there for her and that if she chooses to leave that you will bethere to help her through.Get some info on a domestic violence counselor and give it to her[not in his presence.]May cause her trouble getting away if she chooses to later.Good luck!

2006-11-03 07:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by migamw 5 · 0 0

You might try telling her that virtually all wife-beaters wind up abusing their children as well, that the beatings get worse the longer that it goes on, and that just about every domestic-abuse death is the end of a long string of assaults and hospitalisations at the hands of their abuser.

2006-11-03 07:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0 0

It may be impossible for you to convince her; I hate to say that but I have seen how some guys get a hold of a woman and the woman can't/won't escape their grasp.

If you know of her having been beaten or if you have witnessed it occur, then you may only be able to help her by talking to the police and making them aware of the situation.

Please talk to others who know and care about her, perhaps they can help you to help her.

2006-11-03 07:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you need to be there for her i was in an abusive relationship in more ways then one and it isnt easy to get out of because you are afraid especially if there is a kid involved you dont want your child being hurt but you need to contact the police you need to get her to stay away from him as much as you can and thats all you can do let the cops and stuff do the rest of the work.....hope things go well

2006-11-03 07:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by love_lost 2 · 0 0

I was in an physical and virbaly abusive relationship for a year 1/2 and i had to go I though he was going to kill me please get your sister out of that relationship let her stay with you or help her move do what you have to...if she wont leave at least you tryed being in an abusive relationship is dangerous....

2006-11-03 07:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Report it to the police and to Family services. They may give her the power to free herself of the abuse.

2006-11-03 07:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yeah seriously why would she tolerate that tell her that she is better than that and he doesnt deserve her, tell her he isnt the one and she could have better, support her if she decides to leave him like children and housing and whatev jus show her there are better ways than an abuser

2006-11-03 07:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0 0

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