i've been with my boyfirend for a year and a half and im pregnant my dad dosnt like him and my mom does she supports me and wants me to have the baby even my other family members want me to exept my dad i dont get along with him very good and i love my boyfriend so much and wants me to have the baby i've been crying because of what my dad said and i dont know what to do i can't kill my first baby ITS just not me!!
2006-11-03 07:21:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
DON"T DO IT! You know that having an abortion would be the wrong thing to do! Your dad will just have to get over it, and trust me..he will. If you love your man, and he wants this baby as bad as you, then why would you listen to anybody else? You need to do what you want and what's best for your baby. You are gonna be a mother, and that's one of the greatest joys in the world, why would you let anyone talk you into ending that? Don't cry about it.. stand up for what you want. Tell your dad that you are keeping the baby and he can either be happy about it or get over it. You have your boyfriend supporting you and your mom and that's all you need. Congratulations!
2006-11-03 07:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby at age 19. I had also been with my boyfriend a year and a half. Nobody wanted me to get an abortion however there were times that I contemplated it, because I was afraid. I think that not having one was the best choice I have ever made. We are such a happy family now, and one day plan to have another. You should do what is in your best interest, not your Dad's! You need to be an adult now and stand up for yourself. Let your dad know that you want to keep the baby and take care of it. That you love your boyfriend and he plans on helping you with the baby. If he can not accept this then that is his loss and not your problem. Stay strong and take the best care of that baby that you can! Life is precious.
2006-11-03 15:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie I will pray for you. You do what believe in your heart is the right thing to do. This is your baby not your fathers. Life is so precious and this baby is a true blessing and was conceived in love just remember that. When the baby arrives you dad will come around trust me he really will. A baby changes every ones minds. Thank God you have a supportive mom. Well good luck sweetie and Congratulations on your Baby!!
2006-11-03 15:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by mary3127 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what you should or should not do, however, I can tell you of my experience. I was pregnant at only 16 with my (then boyfriend). My family was not the happiest about the pregnancy, which made me unhappy as well. I chose to abort at the time, and een though it was over so soon ( the procedure) to this day I continue to think about it. Everytime I see someone else who has a child around the age that my child should have been. Even though I am pregnant now, I still think about the fact that I should have a toddler running around as well. My boyfriend then, is now my husband, and we are happier than ever about our son who will be here soon. And let me tell you, i=nothing could ever beat this experience. Good luck with your decision, and always remember, it is your choice, and only yours.
2006-11-03 16:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by 1st time mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then have the baby, Your dad (the baby's grandfather), will fall in love with the newborn. It may be a rough road for a little while, but if your dad loves you, then he will highly support you. Its not going to happen overnight, but I'll be willing to bet he'll be the most excited as the time comes near. Keep your mom and dad highly informed of what's going on. They will be part of your, your boyfriend, and the baby's life. And by the way congratulations! Send pictures, I can't wait.
2006-11-03 15:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the baby then that is what you should do. Forget all these people in the world that say you should not have a baby out of wed lock obviously they have never been in your situation. I have and ya know what keeping her was the best thing that ever happend to me. I had her when i was 17. yes it was hard but it also was hte most rewarding thing in the world. I am now married and expecting my fourth child. Good luck and follow your heart it will not steer you wrong....
2006-11-03 16:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by baby_angell_vt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then dont do it ... it sounds like you still have some support in keeping the child....
if you have the option and support and want to keep the baby you most definitely should
i am sorry about your difficulties with your father... maybe you can talk to him about your feeling on the subject and what your plans are... if he refuses to talk about it... then i know it might be hard but just hope someday he will understand and by then you will have a beautiful baby you couldnt imagine ever even letting cross you mind about not having
... dont let yourself get forced into having an abortion it is a horrible thing.. i was forced into an abortion by my (now ex) and his mother
i felt terrible and alone ... but it sounds like you do have some support ... so use that support...
good luck!!!
2006-11-03 16:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DO IT you will never get rid of the guilt !
( I know from friends who have done it )
tell your Dad that you don't want to live your life knowing that you killed your 1st baby !
It won't be easy, but it sounds like the rest of your family will help you out. Best of luck to you & your little one !
Besides getting an abortion is NOT good for your
body either .
2006-11-03 15:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to do what you believe in your heart is best and if you believe that keeping your baby is best then keep it. Tell your father that his opinion in the matter doesnt count and just tell your mom you need her help with this. You can do it I have faith in you. Im glad you have enough love in your heart and that youre smart enough to except the responsibility for what you did and that youve decided you want to keep your baby. I too got pregnant when i was young. I kept my son and it was the best thing i have ever done in my life. I feel more complete now than i ever have in my entire life.
good luck and God bless
2006-11-03 15:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by amberslilsis06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how old you are but your father can tell you that he wants you to abort the baby but it is up to you as to what you want to do. It's nobody elses decision. If you don't believe in abortion then don't do it. You have to do what your heart tells you to do. Your dad will hopefully come to except it in the long run. I wish the best and congratulation.
2006-11-03 15:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by firefighter bound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋