Oh such a cliche but, what do i do?

Question

I still like my ex. We only went out for 10 months, but we were in love, and we were in a much too mature relationship for our age (15 n 17). In the end I think he got scared of the commitment which you know is fair enough i took it with a good humour even made him laugh when he was in tears dumping me. 2 weeks later in a bed (tho didnt sleep with) another girl. Went out with her. Made me so mad. When i FINALLY got over him and forgave him, he was tired of her (4ish months?), and i took pity on him. While we were going out we were best friends ontop of everything n it carried foward. We started flirting. Then at a friends party we made out. Since then i been up to 4th base again with him, and we were practically like we were. And i knew it was silly but i did it anyway. I dont think he meant to use me. Now hes at uni, i miss him terribly, he has seen his WH*RE ex who i loathe, and he hasnt wanted to see me...i cry hysterically every lunchtime. Hes my m8 but hes not worth this, help...

I still like my ex. We only wnt out for 10 months, we were in love, and were in a too mature relationship for our age (15 n 17). In the end I think he got scared of the commitment which u no is fair enuf i tk it with a gd humour even made him laugh when he was in tears dumping me. 2 weeks later in a bed (tho didnt sleep with) another girl. Went out with her. Made me so mad. When i FINALLY got over him and forgave him, he was tired of her (4ish months?), and i took pity on him. While we were going out we were best friends ontop of everything n it carried foward. We started flirting then at a friends party we made out. Since then i bin up to 4th with him, and we were practically like we were. And i knew it was silly but i did it anyway. I dont think he meant to use me. Now hes at uni, i miss him terribly, he has seen his WH*RE ex who i loathe, & he hasnt wanted to see me...i cry hysterically every lunchtime. Hes my m8 bt hes nt worth this, bt i CANT get over him, tried & failed.. help..

Ok, i can't get over him properly, ive tried, its impossible it really is, i can stop loving him but never liking him, and i want his friendship i truely do, he is jus like me, and we gel so well. He's one of my best m8s, i wont loose that, i just cant cope with the hysteria and him being all crazy over his whore ex

Answer 1

You even said it. He's not worth it. You KNOW that he's not worth it.

You're still attached, You say that you forgave him, but you're still attached to him. In your mind you WANT it to work out because, after all, you were dating for nearly a year. You gave him your heart, and he keeps tramping all of it.

If he can't respect you, then let him go. There are better fish in the sea, and better guys out there.

Trust me--you're going to find someone even better than he. Just let him go, and don't worry about him. If he wants to be a jerk, that's some other girl's problem.

Answer 2

When will he be 18? And you will still be under 18 then? State laws define statutory rape as an adult having sex with a minor because the law says that a minor cannot give consent to sex even if he/she wants to give it. When he turns 18 and you have sex, he then is breaking the law and can go to jail.

It might be that he has realized that you are too young for him and he doesn't want to go to jail. That could be why he has dropped you. In any case, you need to wait until you are both of legal age before you continue on with your relationship. Concentrate on your studies and do your best to graduate. Remember this also, "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all".

Answer 3

Your right he's not worth this heartache. The first heartbreak is always the hardest. Keep your chin up, and move on. It will be difficult but it is for the best.

Answer 4

Cut him loose. BIG TIME.
He's a jerk and should be treated as such.
Get rid of him...and let your best mates deal with the revenge...