no self worth :(?

Question

For some reason I am seeking acceptance from my colleagues at my new job - I cannot understand why their opinion of me should even affect me (i know i shouldn't care what others think). I feel that I have no self worth and don't have the confidence to be my own person around them. I've always been a very independent person, but in this situation I'm not. Am I going crazy? How would I go about trying to increase my own self worth?

Answer 1

it always amazes me how we can be so harsh to ourselves - we wouldn't dream of being so unkind to other people but give ourselves a raw deal. my advice, for what it's worth, is cut yourself some slack - you've been through a stressful time changing jobs and it has affected your confidence - give yourself more credit for what you have achieved - i don't think for one moment that you are going crazy. take good care of yourself. hugs xx

Answer 2

It's normal to seek acceptance from your "peers". I have very low self-worth and when I started a new job I found this to be helpful:

Even if you don't feel like it, treat others with respect, give them a courteous smile when passing.

If you make a mistake, admit you have and try not to repeat it.

Admit it if you need help, there's nothing worse that a "know-it-all" who won't ask for help when they really need it.

Do your job to the best of your ability.

Mostly, give yourself time to "Settle In". When you're more relaxed at what you're doing, your confidence to be yourself will come out when it's ready to!

I'm now confident in my job and really get on with my colleagues. My self worth has increased automatically because of this!!

Answer 3

If you're usually very independent then I don't see why it should be different now. Maybe it's because you're new at the job and think your colleagues are judging you. Just do your best, be enthusiastic and be yourself socially.

Maybe they're not the type of characters you are accustomed to. Just give yourself some time. Chat with one approachable person at the office and that can b a jumping board for relations with everyone else.

Don't question your self-worth. It isn't negotiable. You're just fine.

Answer 4

Your self-worth is defined by how others see you, but what people see is not 'you' but your actions...

Therefore each of us is defined by our behaviour, so if you want to improve your self-worth then it would be a good idea to find out what is socially acceptable in that group, i.e: Good work ettiquette. And see if you can apply that to your self concept without causing too much imbalance and becoming something you are not.

A person who thinks they are going crazy will often judge themselves and try to judge the minds/oppinions of others without asking them, but dont worry about this until a second voice answers your concerns... A voice only you can hear.

Increase your self-worth by being more value to others and stop thinking about your self and your self-image.

Answer 5

You've allowed these people to invade your space. You determine your self worth and you should stand strong on your principles of who you are. Be yourself and be proud of that fact. Live life, enjoy life and be happy with yourself. Who cares what somebody else says or thinks negatively about you. Don't be a weakling.

Answer 6

Start thinking like you are someone, self worth and confidence are traits that are not inherited, they must be learned... you must remember you are your best friend, treat people how you would like to be treated... also don't be so hard on yourself either you wouldn't treat your best friend that way would you... you are unique like all of us so be yourself accept who you are...

Answer 7

Please believe in yourself look in the mirror and say to yourself I AM GOOD I AM WORTH MORE I DO BELIEVE others will knock you down you have to be the first to believe in you then the rest will follow good luck