Ive got this friend which I have deep feelings for. He had to move away for work, and weve kept in touch through email. I get frustrated and lonely because we dont spend anytime together anymore. Emails just doesnt cut it. I feel like a wuss talking about how I miss the good times. He never says anything back, or even talks about how he misses me. So I decided to stop responding altogether, and wait awhile. Today, after three days of No response from me. He asked--IF I was still around! ... Should I write him back or wait more.. Does this mean that he misses me and just dont have the balls to admit to it?
2006-11-03 07:10:49 · 17 answers · asked by dustin m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He probably was suprised that you didn't respond back since base on what you are saying, you kinda reply fast most often.
The truth is, I don't think he miss you. He likely won't miss you since you keep asking for more attention. Men generally don't say these kind of things to men, probably once in a while, once a year at most. Sorry, that's the truth.
2006-11-03 07:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key in any relationship. I understand that you may feel that if you press him you may get the answer that you don't want to here and that can be hurtful, therefore you dance around what is really on your mind.
Respond to his email, and ask him point blank why it took so long for a reply. Explain how you feel and ask him if the relationship can survive this long distance volley of emails.
I venture to say that at one point or another most readers have been placed in the exact same situation that you are in now. Quite honestly, I think that most would say that they had to move on with their life but remained friends from afar.
Assuming that your friendship was indeed a deep one, felt by each of you, then maintaining strong communication is key until you both can once again be joined. I really do wish you both the very best, realizing that if it does not work out, then it was meant to be and you both will certainly go on to live happy lives.
2006-11-03 15:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by ebizartistry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this person know about your feelings for them? Have you told them. That would be a place to start. I would explain to them, that the distance has been rather hard on you, and the adjustment has not been as easy as you had hoped. Tell them what you wrote, about the emails just not being the same. Nothing clears the air better and faster than the truth. At least you can then step back and say, I did all I could. You don't want to live... coulda-shoulda-woulda... that is a really empty feeling. If they don't respond like you had hoped... I say it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Chalk it up to a life lesson and try and move on, it may be good, it may be bad, but you will never know unless you try.
Good Luck.... long distance relationships can really be hard, some do work out so have faith.
2006-11-03 15:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya N (thesingingbeaner) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as someone who probably is much, much older than you (don't take that personally) and has been in the same place several times in my past, I suggest that maybe he is unaware of your true feelings toward him, and may not feel the same way about you.
Why not take a chance and ask him about his feelings towards you (like this: " I miss you, do you miss me?").
WARNING: Once you ask the question, you must be prepared to accept ANY answer you receive.
2006-11-03 15:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by buddha bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look some people don't show there feeling iam sure that he does miss u but thing change he live far and he has to move on that life the only thing u could do is to keep in touch and visit once and well o and yes write to him
2006-11-03 15:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by fame4000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he misses you it's just that you show more interest then him...it's no use crying about how much you miss him when he's a thousand miles away...he's probably too busy to dwell on things that were once there...try to visit him if you really miss him..
2006-11-03 15:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not have feelings for you in that way, just give him some time, and them respond to him and see what is going on, also you can ask him, i haven't heard from you in a while, is everything okay, just seeems like you have been shying me away
2006-11-03 15:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, or he wouldn't have replied. Guys don't say their feelings like girls. He misses you. Keep being his friend the way you were before.
2006-11-03 15:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you keep him waiting then he will just think that you are avoiding him and jsut stop emailing you all togethe. just ask him does he miss you. the worst answer is no.
2006-11-03 15:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by take it or leave it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think instead of ignoring him you should have talked to him and told how u felt instead of hiding it maybe he feels the same as you but you need to be the bigger person and take the step forward to fixing this problem
2006-11-03 15:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by love_lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋