I am very secure in my relationship/marriage but I have allowed my wife to express her bisexual desires. Often these have been focused on long term friendships with women that are sexual in nature. Am I crazy to allow this?
2006-11-03 07:01:21 · 23 answers · asked by Patrick B 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am also bi and until recently my husband accepted it. Now that it happens more (with one girl only- my best friend) he doesnt like it and wants me to stop. I dont think that you are crazy to allow this to happen. I look at it like this... Us wanting to be with another woman sexually doesnt change the way we feel about you as our husbands. You guys need to be secure enough in the relationship to know that we will never leave you for another woman (or man) Like they say, Girls just wanna have fun!
2006-11-03 07:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by ItalianPrincess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There would be a lot of motives. If she is youthful, she is probable terrified of what it's going to be like, will it harm, and so on. You did no longer say how long you have customary one yet another, yet whilst that's barely in the near previous which you have met she probable isn't waiting to have intercourse with a digital stranger. Or she would have been the sufferer of sexual attack interior the previous, which makes it very complicated to have any type of sexual dating while not having extensive counseling. you have waited this long to have intercourse, so waiting until she is waiting isn't too complicated. supply her a while and that i'm specific she will have the means to return around. Take the rigidity off her and enable her comprehend which you adore her and could be there for her whilst she is waiting. And make certain you no longer take it individually. i think of arranged marriages make it complicated to regulate to the marriage at first. i'm specific it is not that she would not such as you. And the proper element you're able to do is confer along with her and attempt to get her to tell you definitely why she would not desire to have intercourse. it would make an effort and persistence to get the respond out of her, yet with persistence and love you will locate the clarification and attach the subject.
2016-12-28 11:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would love to be in ur shoes right now... Personally I feel like this is still cheating, and I'm sure u wouldn't let your wife do this with men, so why with women? But in the end it's your decision. The fact that your asking the yahoo community this question pretty much means your questioning your actions... Maybe you should take some time to think this over yourself as well as with your wife.
2006-11-03 07:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by lilmissheiress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I think your question is about sexual exclusivity in your marriage. And issues connected with that.
If your wife goes to bed with another woman, will you feel that it is a different (allowable) situation than if she went to bed with another man? Are you hoping for a threesome? I mean are you "allowing" your wife to share sex with someone other than you? I try not to answer with questions, but there are other questions to ask to get your answer.
I had a steady girlfriend a while back who admitted to me that she was bisexual and I thought "Oh boy! Sexy! Me, my girl and some other chick..."
The reality was that she started going out to see the other chick and I was sitting at home by myself, wondering what my girlfriend was up to. It came between us; we broke up.
2006-11-03 07:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by anyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. There's a difference in being bisexual and being in an open marriage. If you're comfortable with opening your marriage to others then there's nothing wrong with it. But talk about boundries and ground rules BEFORE anyone takes action, to minimize risk of a very ugly misunderstanding later. Hope it work out for you.
2006-11-03 07:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, to start with you don't have the right to allow her to do anything, you can however accept her choice and stay in the relationship, or get out of it. Helpful hint females are no longer property.
as long as both of you are comfortable, and happy in your relationship then go with it.
2006-11-03 07:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't crazy. If the relationship works like that then I don't see any problems. Just go with it and give the finger to anyone that says it's wrong. Why fix what's not broken?
2006-11-03 10:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't crazy as long as you are both honest with each other, you are truly comfortable with the situation, and your wife practices safe sex with her other partner. If you're happy and she's happy, then do what you want to.
2006-11-03 07:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "allowed my wife to express her bisexual desires"? How is she expressing them, exactly?
What exactly are you allowing?
2006-11-03 07:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is who she is....it's up to you to stay in the relationship or not. Your not really allowing it because she would have been with one in secret if not. Your just making the best choice so your not left in the dark.
2006-11-03 09:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋