Can you mess up enough to be unforgivable? Could one mess up enough to even be unable to forgive themselves?

Answer 1

Forgiveness has nothing to do with the deed that were done, but with the character of the person who is wronged. Some people will never forgive someone for cutting in line in front of them. Others forgive murderers and the like who commit crimes that can never be made right again.

If you're asking if it's ethically appropriate to forgive some things and not others, that is probably a much more involved question!

Answer 2

The questions you are asking are very subjective. If, for instance, someone died as a result of another person's negligence (fault, whatever), it would be much easier to forgive that person as, say, a juror, than it would be for a family member of the victim. However, by the same token, it may be easier to be forgiven by another, in that situation, than to forgive yourself. And others may never forgive themselves for harm to a lesser degree, say lying to a significant other, or cheating.

Either way, making a decision in the moment is not the best way to go about this situation. Forgiveness, true forgiveness, usually isn't bestowed overnight. For whatever the wrong may be, the individual who does the forgiving will have to go through a process similar to a grieving process. Communication is key to moving through feelings that, in the moment, may seem jumbled and confused. Penance can be a condition of forgiveness, although forgiveness with conditions is rarely true forgiveness. This is true for both parties, and is even pertinent when the only issue is forgiveness of one's self.

Everyone messes up. The only things we can do is try our best to make up for whatever it is we did, as best as we can. Whatever the reason for the question, good luck with it.

Answer 3

It's a lot easier to mess up and not forgive yourself than it is to mess up so much ther person who loves you wouldn't forgive you.

Answer 4

If you feel remorse, you begin to enter the forgivable state, however, there are certain acts that one would never forgive themselves for while they existed on earth.

Answer 5

everyone messes up but the ability to know you did makes you forgivable and able to change

Answer 6

Shakespare wrote that " We do not judge men Sir, we judge crimes." Christianity averrs the same by the Maxim, " judgment is mine saith the lord!"

Following that sense of reasoning can you imagine a crime that can never be attoned for?

Answer 7

God forgeves all no matter how bad of a mess up you are you just need to want to truly repent.

Answer 8

someone who is unwilling or unable to accept responsibility for their actions cannot forgive themselves, and therefoe cannot truly be forgiven by others.

Answer 9

Ask my ex boyfriend... I will never forgive him for what he did

Answer 10

I think so. Take a rapest for example. No matter what they do they will never be able to take back what they had done.