What happened to personal responsibility?

Question

I was watching the news and the mother of a deliquent druggie blamed the fact that society hadn't bothered to raise her child!! What the hell is wrong with these people, is it like this everywhere? The fact that society HAD raised the child into what he had become should be proof enough that we collectively don't give a $hit about raising their children for them!

Answer 1

Personal responsibility went out the door years ago...

Guy buys cup of coffee at McDonald's, guy puts cup of coffee between his legs as he attempts to drive large vehicle, guy slams on brakes while driving, guy scalds crotch area with hot coffee, guy sues McDonald's over issue, saying he didn't know the hot coffee would be so hot as to scald him if he put the cup between his legs while driving. What a freak'in dumb***.

Not only has personal responsibility gone out the window so has all common sense.

Enjoy your day full of personal responsibility and no scalding coffee in your crotch. :)

Answer 2

Sorry but I was raised by the state " a child of the state" and I have thrived.
The idea of personal responsibility is not something we are born with it something we acquire as we mature.
You have written these people off, who's to say that this person goes through this part of their life and is then best able to help others in the same situation.
Who knows only God.
The ability to judge and write off is so easy when you are not in that persons shoes.
Look to your own personal responsibility, in your question you are talking for everyone, collectively, what gives you the right to do that?
We get it wrong on so many levels, no one is owned we come here to learn lessons and to develop spirits having a human experience.
Parents do not own their children, children are guided but not owned and it is when parents think that they do, that there is other serious problems like children becoming dependant.
When we had extended family's it was very ones responsibly to care for each other.
What the hell is wrong- you may ask, expecting a lone parent to look after their child whilst being demonised by the likes of you. Its hard enough when there are 2 parents and a good family support network.
Get a life
get a soul, help someone while you can because none of us are that strong we can afford to point the finger. There but for the grace of God go You and I.

Answer 3

Years ago I remember reading a report about studies done after WW2 on children who were pretty well raised in the creches in the USSR and other Soviet Republics while their parents were out at work (the long hours and night shifts of both parents were involved within this ~ due to the 'Recovery' needed post-WW).

Back then, the whole thing made grim reading of the disaffected, maladjusted youths who were unable to form stable relationships and experienced a whole spectrum of problems with 'society' as a body.

Although not a Soviet society here in the West, many of the same problems exist here, for any number of reasons because the members of society have been coerced into leading a similar Soviet 'life-style.' (as I see it)

Obviously, this isn't all of the story, though I suspect it is that of a great many people.

Oh, and as true as this may be, it seems that there are many of them who fail to see that 'life-style' or not, they are still responsible for the behaviour of their children - as are the collective body known as 'The Government' who have done much to create the situations we find ourselves having to face today.


Sash.

Answer 4

Well you may not believe this but things were very much different in the 50's, then the flower power, drug doing, peace chanting, Hippies of the 60's and early 70's changed all that.
Why is that important to know?
Because they are the parents and grandparents of the kids today and they are the ones saying society failed to raise them.

Also a bunch of them are running the country... Now that is a scary thought!

:o)
Jerry

Answer 5

I think it is a combination of both. People are not taking responsibility of their own actions and are constantly passing the buck plus as a society we seem to care less about other people. A lot of people don't even know their neighbors name. No one is looking out for each other. I was lucky enough to grow up in a small town where if I did something and someone else found out, they would tell my mom. This both kept me on my toes and gave my mother a little bit of peace. I am that happens less and less especially in larger towns.

Answer 6

Yeah, "It takes a village", my scorching buttflanks. We're not running around with spears and erecting clusters of shoddy grass huts for shelter anymore. The village has quit its job and proclaims those wanderings homeless abortion a national, irremediable disaster. If people want a return to the good old days where others watch their f---ing children, then lets also bring back the disciplinary measures of wooden pooper paddles and knuckle beatings with splintery rulers.

Proper socialization of a child begins and ends at home. If a kid experiences no repercussions for acting like a feral beast in his owm mother's living room, he won't care about his actions elsewhere.

Answer 7

We live in a society that makes being a victim an excuse for any action. They claim that every action is a result of some sort of mistreatment. Dr. Spock taught us that any criticism of our kids would hurt their egos so we made excuses for their actions. We are in the second generation of this thinking and the spoiled children have grown into spoiled adults. The spoiled adults think that being born gives them entitlements. They are entitled to steal because they are poor, etc.

Answer 8

I know I'm going to get roasted for this, but in my opinion, this is a result of liberalism, especially in school. Here's an article that explains it better than I do: (yes, I know the article refers to the UK, but the same mentality goes on here)


A child does not fail, but defers success

David Ward and Matthew Taylor
Wednesday July 20, 2005
The Guardian

If your children come home with reports suggesting they have been asleep for most of the last school year, do not label them as failures. They have been merely "deferring success". Failure, says Liz Beattie, a retired primary school teacher, is a word that should be deleted from the classroom dictionary, because it can put children off learning.

Mrs Beattie and a colleague will propose abolishing the f-word in a motion to be debated next week in Buxton, Derbyshire, at the conference of the Professional Association of Teachers. The motion reads: "Conference believes it is time to delete the word 'fail' from the educational vocabulary, to be replaced with the concept of 'deferred success'."

But others feel failure is as important for children as success - deferred or otherwise. "Everyone fails at some time in their lives and it is often in those circumstances that we learn the most," said Nick Seaton of the Campaign for Real Education.

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Teachers in our country are moving away from using red ink to correct papers - some schools have gone so far as to blacklist red ink! Why? Because parents feel it was too "stressful". For Pete's sake, folks, I think parents have a heck of a lot more important things to worry about than what color of ink is used to grade papers! (the 2nd link below takes you to an article about the ink) Perhaps, instead of whining about the color of ink used, parents should take the time to HELP their children learn. GRRRRRRRR!!!

Answer 9

Yep. There's no such thing as personal responsibility anymore.
Alcoholics blame the bartender for being over served.
Pedophiles blame their abused childhood for their 'urges'.
Drug addicts blame their disadvantaged life for being hooked.
Young boys blame their girlfriends for getting pregnant because she failed to use any means of birth control.
Republicans blame Democrats for everything that's wrong with this country, and vice-versa - instead of trying t work together to find resolutions to this nation's problems.
Corporations blame government for not giving them enough tax incentives (welfare) or funding to make them profitable, even thought the CEO took millions of dollars in salary, bonuses and then got a million-dollar golden parachute.
U.S. Presidents blame the Iraqis for the mayhem, carnage, and killings in Iraq, without recognizing that he's the one who sent U.S. troops into another sovereign nation for no justifiable reason.
And no one wants to be bothered trying to rescue a 'druggie' from his own personal hell; no wants wants to try to help some crippled or disabled child; no one thinks it's there concern that millions of kids go to bed hungry every night in the richest country in the world; no one wants to assume any personal responsibility for trying to help his fellow man because it might interfere with being able to buy a new Hummer or getting season tickets to the Colts' home games.
What HAS happened to personal responsibility???? -RKO-

Answer 10

It's not only amongst the drug culture though! A friend of mine was moaning that her 3 children weren't reading as well as they should. I asked her how she helped this & her reply was that it wasn't her responsibility to teach them to read - it was up to the school to teach them!! And that was from a professional in a well paid job! I'm appauled at this attitude that it's always someone elses fault when things go wrong. Me - I take responsibility for everything that I do & I have noone else to blame but myself when things don't go to plan. So - ner!

Answer 11

As parents it is our job to raise children to show respect for others and their property.Children need discipline at home and at school and sadly this doesn't seem to be happening nowadays resulting in the youth of today turning into lost kids who don't know how to behave.Things aren't going to get better unless there are drastic changes.