I went on one date with this guy this week whom I met at a gym a month ago. He is a nice guy, good-looking, a gentleman, intelligent...I mean there is nothing at all I see wrong with him and he kissed me at the end of the date.
The thing is my ex whom I was in a long-term relationship with had started contacting me shortly after I started going out with the other guy and I have already arranged a second date with him for next week. I strongly feel that my ex wants to get back with me because of his attitude towrds me when he talks to me. I also feel I really want to get back with him because I do miss and love him.
So how do I brake it off with the other guy? He might find it hard to believe that we went on one date this week and now I come up with my ex has contacted me and I want to get back with him. The guy I am dating might feel there is something wrong with him which is not true, he was really good to me on the date. I just love my ex.
2006-11-03 06:38:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well then just be honest with the guy. Inform him that you really enjoyed your time with him and that he is very much a gentleman etc, but that you have to find out for yourself if there is anything left between you and your ex.
2006-11-03 06:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider your age, why the guy is your ex, and the fact that there is no going back.
If you're young and your ex is the only or one of the few guys you've dated, you probably need to move on. People change as they get older, and two people either grow together or grow apart. Unless you date some other guys, how else will you know if your getting the person who'll be best for you in the future.
Is the guy your ex for bad reasons due to you or him. If it's due to him, please don't fool yourself into believing someone will actually change. You may believe you can relive those special moments that kept you together, but those times are gone. And, once someone's got you back, the old negative behavior usually resurfaces.
But what ever you do, DON'T jerk around this new guy. Otherwise I hope Karma rips your heart out.
2006-11-03 06:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by superfastmoto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful. Think first why you broke up with your boyfriend and how that made you feel. While i think that once you had an amazing relationship things can go back to that after a break, usually it does not happen like that. Usually the things that drove the relationship to an end in the first place, will return and maybe you dont want that.
If on the other hand you still want to go back to your ex and try it out again then you need to tell the new man that the situation changed and that you still have feeling for your ex, that has come back in your life, and that you need to try it again. If you are still interested in this man later, and he is in you maybe you will have another chance in the future.
Honesty is the best policy
2006-11-03 06:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by elena s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all you have to say.
I've had a really great time with you and I think that you are incredible. But I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend and we are going to try to work things out.
You might want to wait and see if your ex really wants to get back together first. If he's really great, then I wouldn't break it off until you are certain.
Also - are you sure that you want to get back with your ex? Think about why you broke up....have those issues been resolved? Did he break up with you? Maybe he only wants you back cause he knows your out with someone else...guys can be very territorial. There are a lot of exceptions, but usually getting back together with an ex only lasts a short while and you end up just as you were before. Except this time you'll have given up this other great guy for it, and chances are - he won't take you back.
2006-11-03 06:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by t433_sd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what its like to have feelings for an ex, but that doesnt mean you need to get back with him. after all, hes an ex for a reason. i sincerly suggest you stop and think about why you broke up in the first place, and what it is you think will change that didnt work in the first place. also, just because you were in a relationship with him before, doesnt mean you need to jump into another one because you love him. unfortunatly, love is not enough to make a relationship work. it takes a lot of work from both of you and commitment and communication. also, maybe this is a sign that you are not ready to date yet. i wouldnt worry about what this guy thinks of you, i would think more about what is really best for you. is it best for you to even be in a relationship right now? or is it best to be alone or even just date different people. often times we want to give ex's a second try, especially if they swear how they've changed. Unfortunatly, even if they have changed, that doesnt mean it will work out again. maybe there is just something between you two that doesnt work right. its ok to still love him. maybe it would be a good time to reflect on what you can learn from the relationship, what good you can take from what you two had. maybe theres some quality he has that you want in a bf. that doesnt mean he has to be the one. theres tons of good guys out there. trust me.
2006-11-03 07:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by faiths13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me give you some advice. Don't get back together with your ex guys to that when they don't have a girlfriend and I went through it for a bit. I just miss my ex and always feel like I want to get back together with her and so on...But even after I got back together with her I felt like I wanted to break up with her again, I just remembered why I broke up with her when I got back together with her.
Maybe you want to get back with your ex because you had more than what you currently have with the new guy. Just stick with the new guy, you'll feel the same way eventually believe me. That's what I did and I feel great that I got someone new (single now again though lol). I wouldn't count on things between you and your ex working out again in that way.
2006-11-03 06:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY IN THE HELL do people move on and start dating when they are not over the last relationship. Do you see how unfair it is to innocent people. I wish you had mentioned why your ex is an ex. Why didnt your love for your ex keep you two together in the first place? I hope you get to feel what its like for someone to play you because they are CONFUSED, then maybe you will get the jest of what I'm talking about.
2006-11-03 06:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to keep this sap on the line in case things don't work out with your ex. Tell the poor sap the truth. It's not going to work out with your ex or you wouldn't have split in the first place. Get into therapy before you go back to him. You've got a lot of problems. Just looking for advice from strangers tells me that. What do your close friends say?
2006-11-03 06:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by Superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes honesty is the best approach. However, I'm curious why your ex is actually your ex? Maybe there is something to that? If it's due to some issue like cheating or something related to that then you might want to actually keep your ex your ex. :-) If it's something repairable keep him hanging on by a thread and monitor him. :-) Go out with the other guy again and see if there is something there. If your ex is your ex...then you shouldn't feel guilty about going out with this new person. Tell you're ex you want to take it slow and see which one pans out better.
2006-11-03 06:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Brad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your ex know that you went out on another date? if so this could be why he is suddenly interested again. but if you don't think that is the case then just tell the guy from the gym the truth. if the guy is that insecure then that is his problem but i think he will understand. prolonging the situation is not the way to go - just be upfront.
2006-11-03 06:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by lo_zeke8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋