ok here's the details. got married 3 months, 2 weeks post honeymoon a family member becomes deathly ill and takes away our thunder. a month later she starts cheating on me. it's been happening for a month and a half and i have detailed records of it all. i've confronted her about it and she denied it all. i gave her some details of what's going on and she knew that i knew so she fesses up.
She blames it on me that the relationship has been bad, but i feel that we only had 6 weeks before she started cheating so i don't feel like she gave the relationship enough time to work.
should i cut my losses and move on or take her back?
2006-11-03 06:32:22 · 28 answers · asked by Mario T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, 6 weeks after you said "I do" and she says the relationship was bad?? It sounds like she's just using that as an excuse for her behavior.
Only you know if you should invest more time in this relationship. Is what she did something that you can live with? Are you going to constantly wonder if she's doing it again anytime she's 15 minutes late, or are you going to trust her again? Only you know.
2006-11-03 06:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do first is forgive her and then sit down and talk about the situation on you two marriage. If you love her you two should decide to accept the Lord who mends all broken marriages. Because without the Lord we can do nothing. God design marriage to be with the two of you, not with others. He design you to happy in the marriage and grow together in Him and each other. It was wrong that she did that to you and I'm sure it hurts that she admitted it once you confronted her, but theres still hope in God for your marriage. It's up to you two to decide if you want Jesus to mend and show you the right way of marriage. It might have been too early for you two to have married because it is better to date a person to see if that person is the one for you. When you date you look for qualities and habits that are morally fit for a relationship. But just know that it is never too late with God to mend. God bless you.
2006-11-03 14:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and move on , once a person cheats , that person will do it again, If she really loved you she never would have cheated , and would have stayed faithful no matter what the cirrumstances are around you, there is no excuse for cheating
2006-11-03 14:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by ohmygodtwins404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude!
3 months of marriage and she's cheating?
Let me ask you a pair of questions.
Can a Zebra change it's stripes?
Can the lady change her ways?
The answers to both are NO.
If she couldn't give the commitment of marriage 90 days, terminate the contract.
Here's another thought, if she went out and got a job, and started changing the job description in the first couple of weeks, would they not fire her?
2006-11-03 14:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by George Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you have been married 3 months, then she has been cheatin on you for a while then. think about it if is now that you see this is happening it isn't like she found someone 1 month ago or 2 weeks ago, this person she must truely like, love, or attracted to. Counseling would be best for you, but if she isn't willing to change her life, cut it out.
2006-11-03 14:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but nobody cheats that soon,,,i think you should dump her...why take her back...let her show you with actons that she is willing to change....don't just take her back,,,not worth it...3 months are still in the honeymoon category.....and the thing is that she tried denying everything ...not only a cheater but a liar..so, Mr. Mario...you should cut your losses....good luck
2006-11-03 14:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid that you are going to have to cut your losses. It seems that she did not even give the marriage a chance before she started cheating. Do not let her blame her actions on you!!! You do not cheat b/c someone made you, you do it because you want too. If it is anyone's fault it is hers. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-03 14:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by NIKKI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She started cheating a month after you got married? Man, that didn't take long. Time to dump her and move on.
2006-11-03 14:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple,cheats back on her.you knows she will be enjoying good sex with another man,so tit for tat, go get a pros and get even.SHe will never forget the wonderful time she spent with the other man.there is nothing u can really do but to accept the fact.What's the point even when u r making love to her she's thinking of the other man...dude
2006-11-04 03:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, sorry to hear that, but she is not even admitting that she was wrong, just trying to blame you for her failure. It is time to cut your losses and let her go. If you stick with her, I can promise you will have to deal with this again and probably not too long from now.
2006-11-03 14:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋