brain damaged...and the other side of the family said.."we are unable to care for him. we have children...."...Now if, if she were to leave she will get CRITICIZED by religious groups and other people that have NEVER WALKED IN HER SHOES...to PROTECT HERSELF AND HER CHILDREN...from judgment...would she be better off to say...' HE WAS IN A FATAL ACCIDENT"....and if the person asks other questions...just say..."i don't relive it"...because how is she going to be able to MOVE ON from that painful time???or just say...when asked...."it just didn't work out?"...what is best for her, because she is in the situation, not THEM??? I know 50% would stay and 50% would leave...Plus it is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS...she knows i am on the internet and will NOT REVEAL HER NAME...I AM HER BEST FRIEND...she would have to put him in a state home...there is no money...and she is in her 20's...THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FAMILY DOES NOT WANT HIM...IT IS TOO MUCH OF A BURDEN FOR THEM...
2006-11-03 06:24:36 · 7 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she needs to put him in a state hospital and visit him every now and then...that is a huge burden especially when she has no one to help her not even his family
2006-11-03 06:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The decision your friend made was discussed amongst her husband's family and herself and she feels that she has made the best decision. I don't think she needs to answer anybody about her situation. The only people to whom it concerns is that family, and if his family doesn't have a problem with it I don't see why anybody else should. If I were in her situation and people were to ask me I would simply explain that I'm a private person and I don't care to share certain aspects of my personal life. If they get offended then they probably were some busy body trying to dig up dirt. As long as your secure with who you are and have good friends and family surrounding you everything will fall into place again. Good luck to you!
2006-11-03 06:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by jill_valentine_otaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She vowed to love, honor and cherish, through sickness and health. It's time for her to step up to the plate and live up to what she promised to.
Since you are the boyfriend, why don't you support her in this? You're already supporting the affair, might as well help her out all the way.
Do you really want to be with a woman who would leave you the moment you got hurt or the moment you really needed her the most? Because if she leaves, that's what she is doing to her husband.
2006-11-03 06:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she could get a divorce. Most people would judge her harshly for that, but she could say "walk a mile in my shoes" to them.
When most people vow "For better, or for worse", I doubt that they have a thing like this in mind as the worse case scenario.
That is a test of devotion that is most severe.
If she's not up to the test then she's going to have to be the 1st person to forgive herself for that.
Personally, I wouldn't blame her if she couldn't stick it out to the bitter end.
2006-11-03 06:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, only she can make the decision. In my opinion, I think she is doing the right thing for caring for him. I believe that if you marry someone, they are your responsibility. At the same time, if she wants to date you, I think she should be able to . She shouldn't be stuck with a life of no happiness or reciprocated love.
2006-11-03 06:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her make her decisions about the man that she married.
If you influence her to "pull the plug" on him before she was ready to let go, this will have devistating results in her greiveing/healing process.
2006-11-03 06:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by go4itgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad.. im not being sarcastic
2006-11-03 06:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Kim Buns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋