I know it's rather hard to gauge this, and maybe it's something you can't simply word as "how long would it take..." but if you could generalize it or maybe share from personal experience, please do share. And are there signs that she may give to you that indicate that you are that person for her or maybe even signs/things she may say that indicate that you are not that person for her?
2006-11-03 06:23:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just know. It's hard to explain but the feeling is unique and in my opinion rare and a lot of people don't end up with that person. I don't think everyone marries "the one" or maybe even finds them. When it comes to long lasting relationships, an old couple who had been married for well over fifty years explained why they managed to stay together, "We never fell out of love at the same time."
2006-11-03 06:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by MaryAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my "one" when I was 17 years old. We dated for 1 1/2 years and then broke up because I was young/foolish/long distance/was pressured by my parents to not get tied down so young. For the past 18 years I have tried to reason with myself that he is not the one, and married others and lived/am living a fullfilling and wonderful life others would be jealous of. But a few weeks ago, after reconnecting with him accidentally, I realized he is the one and always will be. He and I are both different, and there are a few things I don't really like about him now, but he is still the sweet, smart, loyal, wonderful person I remember. While I can't say I regret being married to someone else with children I would do almost anything for another chance to go back in time to see what might have happened if I could of had another chance with him. If you think your mate is the "one" hold on.
2006-11-03 16:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there will be "signs"- you can't base a lifelong commitment to someone on hints and clues. The person can be right for you only if you talk about BIG issues: marriage, children, goals, your future, financial plans, family, in-laws, housing. It takes a long time to uncover all this info-6-8-10 months, and while it doesn't sound romantic, you can't build a solid life together if all you've done is hint about love and feelings.
2006-11-03 14:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give myself a year because that will give me enough time to know what he likes and dislikes and he me. I would date without sex because that is the right thing to do when you serve the Lord. I would make sure he loves Jesus as much as do and that he attends church. Because without Jesus there's nothing to a marriage. Doing it God's way make life more easier. During the time we are dating that will give me indications if he is the one. He must know how to carry himself at all times. He must not be a liar or cheater because if so we were not meant to be. He must be respectfully to me and others, know how to open a car door for me when need it. He also must know how to pull a chair from the table so I could have a set. He must know how to have clean fun and not dirty fun as people who don't know the Lord. God will also show me if he is the right one because I will be seeking Him on if he is the one and once I get the green light I'm sure he will ask my hand in marriage. But nothing can be done without the Lord. God bless you.
2006-11-03 15:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew pretty early on - It's strange coz until then I didn't believe in all of the 'the one' stuff - but with my husband it was like magic - I just knew that this was the person I wanted to marry and spend the rest of my life with
2006-11-03 14:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by misscynic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it took me 3 years after i met him.....then in one night...it took me 2 bottles of wine, a few additional beers, one awesome night of passion, 20 nonstop phone calls because i was to embarrassed to answer the phone, 3 months straight of never leaving his home and a positive pregnancy test.
and as for my signs.....every day. when i wake up and i smile becuase he is the first person i see, when he text me throughout the day just to say i love you, when he smiles when i come home, when he smiles when i serve him his dinner, the way he cuddles me while we watch TV, when i smile because he is the last person i see when i wake up.
if every day you walk around knowing that the person you are with is the right one for you....then you know you are with the one.
2006-11-03 14:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking so many questions you could ask your girlfriend. If you and her get along so well or if you really want to know what she thinks, you should ask her. We are not your girlfriend... unless you wanna be. BUT DUDE! Go get high or something.
2006-11-03 21:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took him 6 days to stop trying to impress me, put his guard down and become himself. On the 6th day, I began loving him.
2006-11-03 17:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by ***MAF*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mine wasnt long...... I hve always admired the way he does things. But for him from day 1 he set eyes on me he told himself he would marry me, and in so being we got married.
2006-11-03 14:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may sound crazy but from the day i met my bf i know he was the one
2006-11-03 14:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋