has anyone ever said or done something to a close friend or family member that they regret, i had a heated argument with my big bro last night and said some really bad things to him, i really regret what i said, so i have just been and apologised to him...glad i did, i felt awful after the argument....has anyone else felt bad after a fight or argument and regretted that it happened?
2006-11-03 05:57:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
after i apologised he gave me a hug and said it was ok...i love my bro...but i still feel that pang of guilt.....we've never ever fought like that in our lives, and it was over something really stupid that got out of control...i take full blame for this, and i just hope we never get like that again, i feel so bad, we are very close, maybe i should take him to dinner tomorrow
2006-11-03 06:21:38 · update #1
As a teenager I was really nasty to my step-mother, who was infact loving and kind and had always treated myself and my brother, exactly the same as her own daughter. As I passed through my teens we became good friends, but I always regreted the way I had treated her. Then she died suddenly at the age of 50yrs, I was devastated because I had lost the only person who had really understood me. I have always wished I hadn`t wasted thoes teen age years hating her.
2006-11-03 06:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that, at some time or other in our lives, we have all said something, or acted in a way, that was less than we would hope to be seen as, 'our normal selves.' and I am absolutely certain that your brother will continue to see you as he always has. The thing that impressed me was how rapidly you apologised, I am sure he will have seen that also, and I am pretty certain that he will also know that it caused you concern to have got to an argument stage, and he is probably feeling exactly the same way you do. Put it behind you, over and done. I am sure that your love for each other will continue as before. Sincere respect to you for your prompt action in a situation that could have been left to get out of control.
2006-11-03 07:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by learned_old_sage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have our off days, at least you were big enough to apolgise I would find it hard to believe that a man would admit to being in the wrong and apologise for something he said or done.
I have bitten my lip so many times when it comes to close family and friends, there would be a few things I could say that were completely right, things that I wouldn't have to apologise for saying but I just couldn't handle seeing the hurt in their faces to I try to stay calm as much as possible.
2006-11-03 06:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by debs1701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have been involved in some nasty arguments in one way or another with relatives or friends, but the good thing is we usually feel really bad and they is no better way of appeasing them than to apologise. I greatly salute you for that, but let this serve as a warning that in future when you lose your top, don't ever go overboard, try and learn how to control your temper.
2006-11-03 06:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by marizani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah ive been there a few times.. but the thing is huni.. things you are thinking always come out in a row.. so they must of been on yr mind to say em.. and now its done its done... just go out and have a nice night out together and say look im sorry and give him a big hug... hes yr bro hel prob be upset over things he said too.. and coz hes yr bro hel forgive you ... look he loves you yr his sister.. all brothers have soft spots for there sisters ... i have 2 brothers and its the same... dont worry ... have a nice nite tom when you take hime out lol x x
2006-11-03 09:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by cathrin j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes- I do that all the time, have an arguement say something completely random and upset someone. Its the making up bit thats best. You can always apologise and move on.
2006-11-03 06:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by apologising to him , eveyone say thing's that under normal circumstance's they would not say , in the heat of the moment we all do it , and you have apologised and regretted it , there's nothing else you can do , except give him a hug when you next see him .
2006-11-03 06:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep. I once said something awful to a relative that I still regret to this day. Of course I apologized profusely but I still beat myself up about it. Just try to move forward. We are human. We make mistakes.
2006-11-03 06:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, every time I get irritated by my best friend. I'm impatient with him, then feel terrible, then apologise for being such a grouch. It's a wonder he tolerates me.
2006-11-03 06:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes! it has happened on several occasions. the worst time was when i said some nasty things to my mom and she started crying and would not talk to me for a couple of days. it makes me feel so low, i have never done it since then
2006-11-03 06:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by ashmstan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋