She is my very best friend now i started love her; but i know our parents won't accept this... what i need to do now?
Friendhip or Love? Parents or Lover? please advice me...
2006-11-03 05:54:36 · 21 answers · asked by Mr.Genius 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Does she love you back? If so, try going together to talk to each set of parents. Maybe one or the other will agree, and help convince the other set of parents.
If neither accepts it, maybe you will just have to wait until you are old enough and do what you want then. Good luck :)
2006-11-03 06:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying that you should be friends before lovers. That is often true. In this case it is definitely true.
As to your parents, it is never a good idea to allow your parients, friends, relatives to influence your relationship with another person.
In the end it is you who will have to live with that person.
It is also likely that your parents, relatives and other will not like your mate, but what counts is that you like them.
I have found that even in most relationship where the in laws started out disliking the person, it usually changed after they got to know them a little better. That will likely happen in your case (unless your friend is just morally corrupt).
Chose the one that is most dear to your heart. Your heart will usually lead you down the right path.
2006-11-03 06:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Willard S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say think about it and talk to her before you do anything. I understand that you probably love her a lot, but she may not love you back. With friendship, sometimes it gets too deep to fall in love at all. After you two come to an understanding about whether you will begin a relationship or not, then you should bring it to your parents. They probably have their own ideas for your life, but the only reason they have these ideas is so you remain happy. If you just explain to them that this girl is your destiny, it is their responsibility to understand. If they do not, it doesn't matter. They will get over it. It's YOUR life, after all. (But PLEASE make sure this girl is worthy of your love. My cousin fell in love with a gunda and they got married against my aunt and uncle's wishes and it ended up horribly, he was abusive) But if you are absolutely sure you are making an educated decision, go ahead! I hope things work out wonderfully for you!!
2006-11-04 16:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by sam s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friendship is the absolute expression of love until you add sex. Are you sure that you want to louse up this relationship by becoming intimate. Intimacy has ruined a lot of friendships. Often we see our friends as possible partners when they are meant to just be our friends. Who are you going to turn to when you need help and advice and your friend is now your love and you need help with this relationship? Consider carefully if you really want romantic love with this person. Is it reciprocated? If you are absolutely certain that this is the direction your relationshi should go than your parents will just have to accept you for who you are who you love.
2006-11-03 06:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why won't your parents approve?
My boyfriend and I were very good friends for a long time. He instantly fell for me when he saw a picture of me before we even met. We have been together for 9 months now.
All I can say is A GREAT FRIENDSHIP IS THE WAY TO A GREAT LOVE.
2006-11-03 06:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is your best Alie.
So give it some time, parents have the best interest of their children at heart.
Find out why, they will not accept? Then over come the objections.
They say blood is thicker the water.
2006-11-03 07:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be with her regardless of you alls parents opinion. How old are both of you that can make the difference, if you are over 18 you can make your own decisions. Evey one else will just have to be upset, as long as both of you are happy that is all that matters. Isn't that what both of your parents and hers want most for you all to be happy. Hope this helps, just be careful!
2006-11-03 06:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lexie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what to say but I Did the same thing and I told my friend and well I'm better off for it were not romanticly involved but I know that my friendship is stronger and the parents dont dislike me at all so...
2006-11-05 14:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by kane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, ask her how she feels. If she makes you happy and you love her alot, go for it. Your parents are always going to have an opinion about who your with. Its nice to have your parents aprove of who your with, but not always the case. And plus if they were fine with you 2 being friends, why cant you date her? Thats the best part about being with someone, they are your best friend. They also are the person you love.
2006-11-03 06:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh ho !
so another mr.genius calling on! great.
my dear, love cant be there unless there is the true understanding of friendship. love without friendship is infatuation.
first the roots of friendship,..then love---thats the essence of a true n long lasting relationship.
and as far as parents r concerned,,if u love her truly well...then u wont be able to live with any other but her,,thats why they say love is dangerous,,it needs courage to be bold. if u r in love,then there is only ur gf to live with...true love can sacrifice itself on the other but it cannot sacrifice the other.
2006-11-03 06:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by catty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋