Why get married in the first place ?

Question

Well al you lot seem to be being abused and getting divorced. Why on earth did you ever get married in the first place ?

Answer 1

because marriage is the right end to any love story
and its a contract between the lovers promise each other that they will devote thier life for making a great family

Answer 2

I haven't been married (yet), but I guess its all the same reasons that get us into relationships in the first place. Need for a partner, a nice person just comes along... Then people do occasionally make stupid decisions like rush things when they shouldnt be rushed and we get these couples who split up. Marriage is not that big of a deal for some people, could be just as big as starting a normal relationship for others. Nothing to be ashamed about getting divorced though, better do things right late than never. I'd just hope people would let go their desperations and think things through before acting on an impulse.

Answer 3

I think a lot of folks get married because in life we're taught its the next logical step to take. Besides there are good marriages out there its just the bad ones eclipse the good one. There's nothing wrong with being married but a lot depends on the person one marries, the chemistry they have together, communication, respect and trust. If you look at the figures long ago marriages lasted, I don't think they had half as much divorces as they do now. But then the times have changed and today we have so many influences out there. I'm not exactly sure how the run down on the moral of society began but its prevalent in most cultures. I'm a bit cynical myself as to why get married. But I imagine when two people decide that they want to spend the rest of their lives through the ups and downs of life, have hopes, build dreams, achieve goals and just share moments that are worth the heartache, love, trust, respect, share a bond and just finding common ground to work with they get married. No one wants to be lonely, everyone needs someone at one time or another. Marriage is not all bad, it just takes the determined and strong to survive and make theirs work.

Answer 4

I guess whats good for some isn't good for others. I have been happily married for 25 almost 26 years. My first and only marriage I will ever have with the man of my dreams, my heart and my soul. Which I love more than I did when I first married him. You know we have been through good and bad, between deaths of parents and family and health problems, lack of employment etc. Because the only one I can count on in life is my husband. We never fight about money, when we go out we go together, never any question where the other person is or who he is with. Trust and Honor are the main things we focus on in our marriage. Oh yes and we have two wonderful kids that we cherish and a grandchild on the way. Don't think our marriage was perfect, the fun of it is to kiss and make up. That's why he is a man and I am a women, we have our own ideas, we discuss it and come up with the best alternative. So all in all I think you have to work hard and give and take in a relationship to make it work. It's 100% to make marriage successful.

Answer 5

People get married in the belief that the person that they get married to is the one not all things are meant to last and sometimes people get married because at the time it seems like the right thing to do but later learn that it wasn’t.

Love & Marriage is the greatest challenge anyone could ever face and its never perfect though at times it may seem like it but it is a two way street and sharing the blame. Though it can’t always be done that way men that abuse there wives should be taken out and beaten to the very inch of their lives.

Anyways, a great marriage and a lasting one takes a lot of work and commitment and sacrifices

Answer 6

First, you are presupposing that everybody is obligated to get married. That is not necessarily true. Second, entering into a marriage union is a matter not to be taken lightly. Marriage is an institution of God, and is to be honorable. Third, in our society today, people have relegated to marriage to a lower a degree then it deserves. Fourth, marriage is God's design for a man and a woman to express their love physically, and for the purpose of procreation to perpetuate the human race. Why is marriage in a crisis? That is because most people don't understand the purpose of marriage. Abuse occurs because the couple don't follow God's prescription for a happy and fulfilling marriage. The Bible has been scoffed at, but nobody has come up with a better plan. The Song of Solomon, is a book about love making, it is erotic but it is not profane. In addition, when you marry, it is the man and woman with God's blessings.

Answer 7

Personally i think divorce is just an inevitable factor in most cases. Statistically most weddings end in divorce. I think this may be because people tend to jump into the whole wedding thing way WAY too soon these days. But that might just be me.

Personally i don't think the concept of 'marriage' is what it used to be. According to law, people who merely live together could (COULD) have the same benefits (such as testamentary or inheritance privileges) as married couples (well, in South Africa at least, i dont know about the rest of the world). If you are entitled to most of the same benefits married couples are, i say why bother getting 'married'?

I know a lot of people who live together happily and have been living together for years quite happily and they have no intention of getting married. I think if the thought and the feeling is there, a piece of paper to establish it is merely a formality.

I don't have a problem with marriage as such, i just think the concept is a bit dated....
But once again that might just be me.

Answer 8

A person gets married to seal the love between him and his partner. In the first place, why get married to someone whom you know would just abuse you someday. I believe married couples who get divorced later on in life were not mature enough when they entered into Holy Matrimony. This is why you don't rush into marrying. You have to make sure that you are ready for the duties and responsilbilities of a married person. You have to make sure that this is the person you really want to be with through thick and thin.

Personally, I decided to get married to my husband because I love him. That's the only reason I married him. Goodluck!

Answer 9

Oh i am not married by the way but i would still like answer that question. Most women, well the ones i know, get married because they feel like they have to or they just like the moment of i guess. I think it's more like they get caught up in the moment kind of thing and they just don't want to be alone. But for i actually don't even care to get married well not any time soon that's for sure.

Answer 10

Hmm why getting married, this is a very good question. Love is the thing that brought man and woman together.
But how long can a love last? The fire of passion can last for how long, toward each another? Heart of love, and mind of thinking will change through time passes.
Married this word in the mind of most married couples, were be filled with happinness. But in the end most of them turn out not to be filled with happinness. Separation of the married couples and they pushes the duty of a parent toward one another, treating their son and daughter like a war trophy.Good to see and good to hold for a certain of time, then grew tired of their chldren, trying to take the divorce as an opportunity to shake them off or tried to fight for the rights to take care of the children for their own advantages purposes.( But not every divorce parents are like that to their children)Some of them even though they are divorced they wil still uphold their duty as a father or a mother.
So come to a conclusion of your question of what on earth that Humans get when they get married.
The greatest things that they get are the Power of Creation.
The Creation of Life.....The new Born.....The next Generation
Of the Human Kind

Answer 11

I am not yet married but I think its ok if you know all the pluses and minuses, but then again do we ever? As one of the older young men, I don't think younger men for e.g. ever know what they are really doing when they get married like at 20 years old, at that age I for one was just blinded by what "some of the bene-fits" could have been. We all need different things at different points or stages in our lives, sometimes we also need to justify to ourselves why we are not married yet. That's cool. Some people even need to stay in abusive relationships so that in contrast to their partner they can appear to be "the good one". Sometimes the comfort and consolation and simple attention that we receive for being a "victim" is more rewarding than the lost love within the relationship.
But I'm no expert.