Ias seeing ths guy and one day I text messaged him about my earrings, and then left him a voicemail explaining that i needed to know if they were at his house,because i was wearing them to go out, he text messaged me five minutes later and told me not to call him anymore, because he did not like me and that he would tell my sorority sisters about our relationship...and he would tell other people as well, and that I should know that he has a girlfriend and she is a member of my sorority(keep in mind that i did not know he had a girl,so the next day I get a call(from his best friend) who is also one of my sorority sisters calls me and invites me to an event that he was hosting? And I 'm like this is weird, because she has never called me..So What do you think was the cause of his/her behavior? do you think she knows something, or maybe he told her something,?Or was it a coincidence that she calls me asks me to go out with her after I ahdn't heard from her in over eight months?
2006-11-03 04:05:45 · 27 answers · asked by Sweetladi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just to add a few more details of the story/...I actually left in the middle of joining ..so actually I'm not a n official member.I actually do not talk to any of the sisters..and for two his best friend..I believe she's single..and looking for someone...maybe she secretly liked him..I really don't know...and for three...he made the whole thing up about him havinh a girlfriend...for whatever reason..so
2006-11-03 04:38:40 · update #1
I just want to thank everyone for the feedback...and for the most part everyone pretty much think that they were going to set me up..but could you elaborate?
2006-11-03 05:56:24 · update #2
When we first started talking to him, I asked him repeatdly if what his realtionship was with his best friend, and he assured me that they were jsut good friends and that he was intrested in me...and that our friendship wouldn't get in the way of their's..but I do think she likes him...and he probably don't know or don't care about her feelings toward him..
2006-11-03 06:29:52 · update #3
and a friend of mine even told me that they're not on speaking terms anymore...so..
2006-11-03 06:51:09 · update #4
Sounds like a set up to me. I would stay as far away as possible.
Update:
To elaborate, even if he doesn't like her, it sounds like she likes him and is not too happy about you going out with him. When I say "set up" I mean they are going to either embarrass the hell out of you or kick the crap out of you. Either way, I would just steer clear of her. You never know how crazy some people can be.
P.S. A lot of your info is based on "he said she said" stuff. So I wouldn't rely on the fact that he doesn't speak to her either. He sounds like a player. Stay away form him, your life will be less complicated.
2006-11-03 04:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes it sounds too strange, so please do not go. You asked for specifics about what could happen, the answer to that is anything. Turn on the news and watch it. They may want to threaten You, or they may want to harm You. I don't understand why letting the sorority sisters know about Your relationship should be so important, Or telling Your Other Friends about the two of You being together. Perhaps more info about that, if You feel comfortable talking about it. Sounds like this girl is the girl that likes Him, and they are setting You up to prove that the two of You were never together. That is where things can get ugly real quickly, and forever. Move on. No one is worth that risk. I know that You are confused about the situation. But no one here can tell You the inner thinking of these two. You have to be like them to understand them. Just be glad You are not. Just know that no matter how much We would like an answer, or closure, sometimes We just are not going to get it. So We take it as a Life's lesson, and move on, safe, and intact.
God Bless, and please stay away from them....................
2006-11-03 14:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....don't know if I'm missing something but the whole thing sounds very strange. His behaviour is bizarre and the fact that his best friend whom you hadn't heard from in 8 months calls you up and invites you to an event he is holding sounds way too coincidental. Maybe it is a coincidence but it doesn't look like there will be any relationship between you and the guy and since you hadn't talked to the other girl in 8 months, it doesn't sound like you're even good friends or anything so why bother even going to find out. It probably is a set-up of some sort...who knows...who cares. Don't go to find out. Just go on with your life without getting involved in any drama with those two.
2006-11-03 12:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
did you ever call him or get into contact with him after he spoke to you like that?
i once read an article about how "men dont lie".....i think if a man has the guts to tell you upfront that you shouldnt call him or stay in contact with him , it is either:
a) he is not interested at all or
b) he is trying to get rid of you..fast
Whichever those options are true, it is possible they are just tryin to find a way to bring them across by invinting you to a place he will be and then he will perhaps make it a point to ignore you or he'd be there with his girl.... I dont know, but if i were you I wouldnt trust this one bit.
If you are worried about being rude by not accepting the offer, just remeba you dont owe her anything. Anyone who hasnt contacted you in 8 months isnt really worth your while unless they have a pretty good damn reason for not stayin in contact.....
2006-11-03 12:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by Clueless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a possible set up. But how could you not know your sorority sister was dating him in the first place?
2006-11-03 12:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "seethrou" It's a set up...Don't go. Just consider how you were basically told he would tell people and sorority sisters about your relationship.. No, I don't believe it's a coincidence.. It's too much of a chance to take.. again>.don't go.
2006-11-03 12:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by gemma 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's a stupid boy playing a stupid game. Forget the earrings and forget the girl. Just go on w/ your life as if it never happened because people like that are only poison and won't do you any good.
2006-11-03 13:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Niko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt go anywhere around them, sounds like they are setting you up for something, forget the earrings he was just using you. Get on and find someone better.
2006-11-03 14:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows how they may have tried to set you up. I had the feeling that this was the case. Don't have anything to do with either of them and then you won't have to worry about it.
2006-11-03 14:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you didnt want him but you wanted your earrings back. As for the girl, there is some agenda there. Don't play into it.
2006-11-03 13:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by marlenekay4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋