Should I have kids or not?

Question

Is it worth it or should I just enjoy my life and not have mouths to feed?

Answer 1

if you have to ask, then you shouldn't have them just yet!

Answer 2

Good for you for even asking this question....too many people have kids without thought. I will give you honest thoughts from my experience and observations
Children are a huge blessing - you won't feel it's just "a mouth to feed" once you have your own baby. We are biologically programmed to want to reproduce and to feel great love and protectiveness once we have a child. Many people describe the feeling as the greatest love of their life and it is truly not something I can prepare you for in words. The bond is just so profound.
On the other hand not everyone is set up to be a parent and not everyone should feel they have to choose this path in life. parenting is a HUGE responsibility and can be a huge burden, especially in the early years when it seems like a little dictator is virtually running your life! You will never have the personal freedom you have now and I mean NEVER. When they grow up and have their own children you will still worry about them. Kids are expensive too.
It's not all good and it's not all bad. You'll have moments of pure joy with your children and you'll have moments when you will wish you had never given birth. That's the truth. No one should tell you whether to do it or not - it's such a personal choice. Again I just really admire you for asking the question and putting so much thought into this huge decision!

Answer 3

Well its a choice you and your husband should agree on. Kids are a big responsibility, and having them at the right time is the best thing. If you just look at it as mouths to feed, then no maybe right now you shouldnt have any. But once you get the point where you long, and want to have them, then you will know. Though im sure kids are hard work, its worth it.

Answer 4

This is a very personal decision, and you should take in account many factors. First, if you are fairly young [less than 23 y/o] you may still want to enjoy your life to the fullest for a few more years before you consider having kids. Kids DO need a lot of care and you may not be able to go out to party and have fun once you're responsible for one; your whole lifestyle will change, even before the baby is born [you must quit drinking, smoking or using recreational drugs; failure to do so will put the developing fetus' health at risk and cause complications and/or birth defects]. Another factor is financial stability; you should be securely employed and receiving a good paycheck; kid care is expensive if you take in account medical expenses, diapers, formula, babysitting, day-care facilities, clothing and so on. Even if you are financially secure and not so young anymore, if you think you lack the patience, or don't like kids at all, think it really carefully before you make the final decision; having kids is a lifetime investment, of sorts.

Answer 5

The fact that you are even asking this question is an indication that you see having children as a burden. Children are more than just "mouths to feed". They are a part of you, and the moment you see them you realize that all you want to do in life is protect and love them. It's good that you are considering this question before having them because you still have the opportunity to decide not to be a parent.
Good luck.

Answer 6

it is all personal decision. I could not imagine my life without my girls. I would be so bored all day, and have nothing to do. I love my kids alot. I am now 27 weeks pregnant with a boy. I can't wait until I have this baby, it will be different and fun. I would suggest never rulling it out. This is something only a women can experience and if a women rules out the chances then you will never know how live could really be. but it is all about how ou feel. Give it a while. you will decide when you are in the right age.

Answer 7

Some people aren't meant to have kids and that is ok if they are ok with that. I don't look at my kids as another mouth to feed. My kids make my life worth while and I make sure that they know that. For me, my favorite mornings are the mornings that they wake me up first with their smiles. I smile because I am happy to see them and they smile because they are happy to see me. I have made a lot of sacrafices in my life for them and love every bit of it.

Only you can answer that question. Can you look at your children as more than just another mouth to feed? My children have made this world brighter by making other people smile just because they remembered to care about another person- they learned this from their family.

Answer 8

Maybe u need to take it slow and think it threw...if u question urself then u probably ain't ready...jus make sure u make the right decsion that u want before u have them or u will redret it later...it depends on how old u are if ur a teen then u might want to think hard u have a whole life ahead of u and live free while u can if ur older then decide weather or not u want to have kids runnin around and stuff like that...i'm 19 and i have 8 brothers and sisters i made up my mind i ain't havin any i want mine and my husbands life lol!!! I love kids but that jus ain't for me...i'm not strong enough to have em...lol I jus got married so i have a lot to think about...lol!!

Answer 9

If you need to ask if it is worth it, and say that it will be just another mouth to feed, then no! The last thing this world needs is another child that isn't really wanted. so,enjoy you're life. be free, see the world. do everything you want and worry about no one!!!
and at the end of you're life, when no one is at you're death bed, no one comes to cry at you're grave, remember all the fun you had! and tell you're self " It was worth it!!!!
Children are a blessing from God, he is only lending them to us, there are woman all over the world that want to have a baby so bad, that they are spending thousands of dollars to get pregnant or desperate to adopt, but if you ask "is it worth it" I'm sorry you're not ready to be a parent!

Answer 10

You already know that answer to your question; it is in your question. Enjoy your life without the responsibility of mouths to feed. I kinda like feeding my four little mouths! Good luck!

Answer 11

That is really your choice. I have one son and wouldn't change it for the world. It's scarey, most likely the scariest part of my life as I am responsible to bring him up to be a good person, but it is worth it every time I look into his eyes. So many people want a house full of children, I am happy with one. He gets socialization at school and with cousins so I don't have to worry about that aspect. No one can tell you to have children or not, you make that decision when you meet "the one". Maybe adopt instead of having your own. It is a wonderful thing but at the same time, being a parent isn't for everyone and no one should look down upon someone for not wanting kids.